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18 Qualities Every Alpha Woman Should Look For In Boyfriend

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The Alpha Female is a strong, majestic female. She can often be intimidating to those around her and isn’t afraid to ask for what she wants. She’s killing it in her career and has a solid group of friends to rely on.

A strong Alpha Woman needs a man who’s her equal, her partner, her greatest supporter. By definition, you’d think that she should want an Alpha Male, but he can provide only passion, not steadiness. She also doesn’t get along with Beta Males because they’re too weak to keep her or pique her interest.

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So, who’s right for the mighty Alpha Female? What kind of man can keep her grounded while still challenging her to grow and be the best she can?

May I introduce Type Z: a man who’s equal parts solid and charismatic. He’s her rock, her foundation. He’s not intimidated by her successes nor would he allow her to walk all over him. He’s true to himself and true to her.

An Alpha Woman knows what she needs to have a sturdy partnership with a man who’ll be her ally, her confidant and her best friend.

These are 18 qualities every Alpha Female should look for in a boyfriend:

1. He’s someone who can tease you and also be teased.

He’d never be malicious or say something  to hurt your feelings, but he can give a joke just as well as you can.

You know each other well enough to know when you’ve crossed the line, but your shared love of sarcasm and your knowledge of each other’s weak spots make teasing fun — never threatening.

2. He challenges you.

He’s as strong as you are, but more subdued. He’ll push you to be the best you can be and challenge every decision you make — but you’ll love him for it.

Life with him is always exciting and never ceases to surprise you.

3. He doesn’t get jealous.

He’s confident enough to know that the mild flirtations you have at a cocktail party and your unyielding friendship with your work husband are never a threat to your relationship.

He knows you’re his and never feels the need to question you because your relationship was built on a foundation of trust.

4. He isn’t waiting on you, he has his own plans.

He has his own life and respects that you have yours. He’s never going to give you a hard time about wanting to hit the club with your girls.

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Instead, he encourages you to spend time with them whenever you want to because he knows whom you’re coming home to.

5. He doesn’t air your dirty laundry.

He has your full trust, and you can tell each other anything. You’re not afraid your embarrassing stories are going to come back to you when you meet his family or when you meet his friends for drinks.

What’s said between the two of you stays between the two of you. Well, except for your BFF; she knows everything from what he’s got going on downstairs to his latest promotion at work.

6. He knows how to deal with your bad moods.

He’s a source of comfort for you. You feel at ease with him. When you’re angry, he somehow knows how to deal with you with more grace than anyone else.

Depending on how you’re feeling, angsty and emotional or overwhelmed and exhausted, he lets you have your space and knows when to hold you in his arms.

7. When he apologizes, he really means it.

If he’s done something wrong, he’ll always be man enough to admit it and tell you he’s sorry. He’s not arrogant or pigheaded — he won’t do something sh*tty and turn the tables on you, and he won’t hurt your feelings and make you feel stupid for being upset.

He’s a man, not a boy — and a man always knows when he needs to apologize.

8. He’s moving at the same speed you are.

Whether in his current career or his lofty life goals, he always seems to be moving at the same speed you are. He knows what he wants and respects what you want. He’s never pushy or demoralizing — just steadily moving from one goal to the next with a very bright future in sight.

9. He doesn’t belittle you, but he doesn’t put you on pedestal either.

He’s slow and steady, but never a doormat. He doesn’t idolize you but doesn’t make you feel small. He treats you like the fierce woman you are. He also likes to spoil you, but would never give you everything you want.

He’ll always keep you guessing. He’s your partner, not your provider. He’s there because he wants you, not because he needs you.

10. He is someone who teaches, but never lectures.

The best partnerships are the ones in which both people can learn from each other. He’s a well of knowledge and loves to provide you with new information and insights on things he’s passionate about.

You learn from him in many ways, but you never feel like he’s pushing you or judging you. You both teach other lessons that make you better people and better citizens of the world.

11. He makes you laugh.

If you can make a woman laugh, you can make her do anything. -Marilyn Monroe

If he doesn’t make you laugh, you’ll soon grow tired of him. Laughter is one of the most important qualities in a partner. Your shared love of sarcasm and his sharp wit complement each other perfectly.

12. He’ll call you out when you need to be called out.

He’ll never fail to tell you how it is. He’s not scared to hurt your feelings, and he doesn’t tiptoe around you, either. If you’re acting like a raging b*tch or are completely talking out of your ass, you can bet your ass he’ll call you out on it.

He doesn’t let you get away with stupid bullsh*t, not because he doesn’t care about you, but because he doesn’t want to be jerked around by those Alpha Female ways.

13. He wants to be the wind beneath your wings.

He’s a stoic man: strong, independent and sure of himself. He prefers to let you lead, but he’s always there to fully support you. He has no problem being the background; he’s there to be your strongest supporter and your steadfast foundation. He loves that you’re popular because you’re a person he’s very proud of.

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14. He isn’t the life of the party, but is always there if you need to be carried home.

He lets you be the social butterfly you naturally are. He doesn’t mind your vibrancy or doesn’t feel intimidated by your fiery, dynamic personality; instead, he embraces it. He’s also a protector.

He’ll pour you another drink, but take it away when you’ve had too much. He always takes care of you.

15. His opinions aren’t irrational, they’re backed up.

He reads a whole lot of books and stays informed on current events so he can have well-rounded opinions with factual bases. Being educated and sound in his understanding of the world around him is very important to him.

16. He knows when to drop it and when to address it.

He’ll stand his ground when he knows he is right. Though he’ll argue with you, he’s not unwilling to concede if it means ending a fight. You’re strong-willed, and he knows when a difference in opinion or a questionable action is worth discussing or whether it’s better left alone.

17. He has dreams as big as yours.

He’s as career-focused as you are. You both genuinely care about each other’s endeavors. He doesn’t sit back and watch you achieve your dreams because he has passions and goals of his own. You two are a true power couple.

18. He’s a great listener, but also expects to be heard.

He knows when to talk and he knows when to keep his mouth shut. He quietly and patiently listens to everything you have to say, but he expects you to do the same for him.

 

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How To Date An Alpha Female

Thinking Of Dating An Alpha Female? Read This First

Most people are familiar with the concept of an alpha male — a physically strong and socially dominant man who generally has his pick of the (straight) women around him. The alpha female, however, is a more recent phenomenon, thanks in part to the feminist movement that took hold in the 1960s and is continuing to break down economic and social barriers for women today.

It’s worth noting, before we continue further, that the whole concept of “alpha” and “beta” men and women is more than a little problematic. The terminology originally arose within the field of biology: Scientists would observe groups of animals and determine the rank of its respective members, categorizing each of them from most to least dominant according to letters of the Greek alphabet.

It’s a crude and sometimes inaccurate way to think about the social relationships of human beings, who have much more complex hierarchies and scales of dominance than monkeys, say, or lions. However, taken with a grain of salt, it can be a useful framework for understanding different types of men and women.

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Caveats aside, what is actually meant by an “alpha female”? Well, broadly speaking, an alpha female is a successful, driven woman who doesn’t fit the stereotypical female role: submissive, yielding and unambitious; happy to let her man be the star of the show and fade unobtrusively into the background. Alpha females are generally women with distinct Type A personalities: people who tend to be more competitive, outgoing, ambitious and impatient than their more relaxed and unhurried Type B counterparts.

It’s worth noting, before we continue further, that the whole concept of “alpha” and “beta” men and women is more than a little problematic. The terminology originally arose within the field of biology: Scientists would observe groups of animals and determine the rank of its respective members, categorizing each of them from most to least dominant according to letters of the Greek alphabet.

It’s a crude and sometimes inaccurate way to think about the social relationships of human beings, who have much more complex hierarchies and scales of dominance than monkeys, say, or lions. However, taken with a grain of salt, it can be a useful framework for understanding different types of men and women.

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Caveats aside, what is actually meant by an “alpha female”? Well, broadly speaking, an alpha female is a successful, driven woman who doesn’t fit the stereotypical female role: submissive, yielding and unambitious; happy to let her man be the star of the show and fade unobtrusively into the background. Alpha females are generally women with distinct Type A personalities: people who tend to be more competitive, outgoing, ambitious and impatient than their more relaxed and unhurried Type B counterparts.

As women’s rights become more and more accepted within the mainstream, it’s likely that greater numbers of women will fit into the “alpha female” category. Women are increasingly likely to assert their worth and venture bold opinions; pursue ambitious (and traditionally male-dominated) careers; and be more unabashedly sexually adventurous than ever before — all very much alpha female territory.

But what does this all mean for the men who date alpha females? Are there special rules and ways of behaving? Should you feel different about your own masculinity because your partner is an alpha? And how does dating an alpha female differ from dating other types of women? To help you answer these questions, here are five tips to bear in mind when dating an alpha female:

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1. Her Success Doesn’t “Emasculate” You

There’s an unfortunate cultural trope left over from the bygone era of traditional gender roles: if a woman is successful and ambitious within a relationship, then she must “wear the pants.” This leaves you, the man, wearing… well… the dress and apron, we suppose?

It’s nonsense, obviously. There’s room for more than one driven personality within a relationship — in fact, ambitious people tend to pair together, contrary to the stereotypes. But longstanding cultural attitudes die hard, and often even well-meaning and open-minded men can’t help but feel a little bit emasculated by the success of their female partners.

One way to help keep these feelings at bay is to remember that they are partly just good old-fashioned human insecurity, which is a completely normal impulse. Regardless of your gender, it’s always difficult to remain completely calm and collected when you feel as though a peer is outstripping you in a personal, economic or social sense. These feelings are going to persist — or even be exacerbated — when the person doing the outstripping is your most intimate partner. Simply recognizing that insecurity (and perhaps even jealousy) is rearing its ugly head can help you keep these feelings from burgeoning out of control.

Whenever you feel a sense of jealousy, shame or emasculation because of your alpha female partner, it can also help to step back, take a few deep breaths and take stock of the situation. Would you really prefer your partner wasn’t successful, outgoing and ambitious? Probably not, right? And, deep down, aren’t you proud of your partner’s successes, and happy for her? Of course you are. While feelings of insecurity are perfectly normal, try to bring things back into perspective as often as possible.

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2. Treat Her With The Same Respect You’d Afford An Alpha Male

Unfortunately, ambitious, successful women are still treated very differently to ambitious, successful men. Alpha females are labelled “aggressive” or “bitchy” for expressing their opinions and desires, whereas men behaving the exact same way are more likely to be considered “assertive” or “confident”. This is a distressing double standard for women, so if you’re dating an alpha female, make sure you aren’t letting her gender negatively impact how you view her, intentionally or otherwise.

Part of this means discussing the unique issues she faces as an alpha female in good faith, without endlessly playing devil’s advocate. There are certain basic arguments that driven, successful women get really sick of hearing, simply due to how often they’re repeated to them. “Women are too emotional to do certain jobs!” or “Women are naturally suited to caring for kids!” are refrains alpha females hear repeatedly, and it’s tiresome to have to debunk them over and over, especially to a partner who is meant to have her back.

If you’re genuinely curious about what life is like for your alpha female partner, there’s a wealth of material on the internet available for you to read up on. Websites like Everyday Feminism can help you better understand the unique (and perhaps not immediately obvious) issues she faces in the workplace and on the street, and authors like Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie and Heather Havrilesky regularly tackle the issues that alpha females face with wit and warmth.

3. Have A Measured Attitude Towards Her Sexuality

As double standards about women’s sexuality become less socially acceptable, greater numbers of women are adopting freer attitudes towards sex and sexuality. As a result, your alpha female partner may be more relaxed about casual and/or experimental sex than women from previous generations (or more traditional women today), and, as her partner, you might have some strong feelings about that.

If your alpha female partner has an “adventurous” sex life, make sure that you discuss this with her respectfully. Avoid slut-shaming her, and don’t laugh at her kinks and desires if she’s opened up and shared them with you. At the same time, though, avoid taking a prurient or fetishistic interest in her sex life — this is an intimate area that you’re sharing together, so avoid treating her like a bug under a microscope. In short, be open-minded, respectful and conciliatory; just like she should be when it comes to your desires.

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4. Consider Her Competing Commitments

An alpha female is likely to have a lot going on in her life: a busy and demanding job, extracurricular activities, a thriving social life and family commitments. This means that she won’t be able to dedicate every minute of every day to you, just as you can’t for her.

Dating an alpha female may involve an extra level of organization to make sure that your busy schedules can be synced to allow you time together. She is also likely to suffer from the occasional bout of stress from work, and may need additional down time to manage this. The two of you will need open communication to ensure that you’re spending enough time together, without both becoming over-burdened by commitments.

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5. Recognize The Benefits

At times it might be an easy thing to forget, but dating an alpha female is not a chore or cause for alarm – in fact, it’s a joy and a privilege! We’re not talking about sinister, power-hungry demon-women like Cruella Deville or Ursula from The Little Mermaid here; we’re talking about regular, human women who happen to have levels of ambition we traditionally (and wrongly) associated only with men.

There are plenty of benefits to dating an alpha female. To start with, you’ll receive all the usual relationship trappings like company, conversation and physical intimacy, but you’re also likely to receive additional levels of inspiration and motivation from an alpha female partner. Your partner can adopt the role of mentor or teacher when you need to improve in areas she excels at (and vice-versa), and the two of you can share your networks and skill sets.

Finally, you will enjoy the levels of independence in your alpha female partner. Driven, successful women are unlikely to be clingy and needy, and because they are so self-sufficient, you never need to feel as though you are being “used” for your income.

Dating an alpha female does bring with it certain specific challenges, but these are easily addressed using the above tips. Overall, the positives easily outweigh the challenges, and dating an alpha female means that you’re destined for power couple status.

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