Worrying Never Helps, It Hurt

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This is a Worry Quiz and some of you are so worried that you won’t take it, worried that it will come out bad. You are not alone in the day of Hurricanes, Landslides, Storms, Forest Fires, Crime Movies and TV Shows, Ect. Most of us spend most our available time worrying about something, somebody, or just worrying about worrying. With this blog I hope I answers some question and eventually offer you some relief from your, mines and our worrying. But first take this sample online quiz (you really don’t have to) it’s just a sample.

1. Do you consider yourself to be a ‘worrier?’
No, not at all
Yes, but not that often
Yes, sometimes
Yes, often
Yes, I’m a major worrier
2. Are/were one or both of your parents worriers?
No, not at all
Yes, but not much
Yes, worried sometimes
Yes, worried a lot
Yes, major worriers
3. Do you worry to prevent the worst from happening?
No, not at all
Yes, but not often
Yes, sometimes
Yes, often
Yes, always
4. Do you believe the world can be a dangerous place?
No, not at all
Yes, but not often
Yes, sometimes
Yes, often
Yes, always
5. Do you imagine the worst so that you can be prepared should the worst occur?
No, not at all
Yes, but not often
Yes, sometimes
Yes, often
Yes, always
6. Does uncertainty make you uncomfortable? Nervous? Worried?
No, not at all
Yes, but not often
Yes, sometimes
Yes, often
Yes, always
7. Do you believe you need to be in control to feel safe?
No, not at all
Yes, but not often
Yes, sometimes
Yes, most often
Yes, I HAVE to be in control always
8. How often do you imagine the worst?
9. How often do you worry about your well-being, safety, financial matters, or relationships?
10. Do you worry about what the future holds for you?
No, never
Yes, but not often
Yes, sometimes
Yes, often
Yes, always
11. Do you worry about what other people think of you?
No, never
Yes, but not often
Yes, sometimes
Yes, often
Yes, always
12. Do you worry about making mistakes?
No, never
Yes, but not often
Yes, sometimes
Yes, often
Yes, always
13. Do you worry about your health?
No, never
Yes, but not often
Yes, sometimes
Yes, often
Yes, always
14. Do you worry about dying, the process of dying, and/or death?
No, never
Yes, but not often
Yes, sometimes
Yes, often
Yes, always
15. Do you worry about what can happen to family members, friends, and loved ones?
No, never
Yes, but not often
Yes, sometimes
Yes, often
Yes, always


What is Worry

Worry is a natural part of the human condition. It has historically played a vital role in our survival and it helps us cope with many of the challenges we face today. At the same time, worry that is too intense, too frequent, and too unrelenting can definitely cut down on your happiness and enjoyment of life.

We all experience worry. We know that nagging feeling that something is wrong and the persistent anxiety that it produces. But what precisely is worry and why do we worry? Interestingly, thefreedictionary.com notes that “The ancestor of our word, Old English wyrgan, meant ‘to strangle.’ In the 16th century worry began to be used in the sense…‘to assault verbally,’ and in the 17th century the word took on the meaning ‘to bother, distress, or persecute.’ It was a small step from this meaning to the modern definitions ‘to cause to feel anxious or distressed’ and ‘to feel troubled or uneasy.’”(www.psychologytoday.com)

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Unhealthy worry comes from the emotional baggage you acquired as a child and a deep, often unconscious belief that you won’t be able to protect yourself:

  • Insecurity (“I live in a threatening world.”)
  • Perfectionism (“If I make mistakes, I will be a failure.”)
  • Need for control (“If I lose control, I am in danger.”)
  • Social comparison (“People will think I’m a loser.”)
  • Pessimism (“The world is filled with dangers.”)
  • Low tolerance for stress (“How can I protect myself if I’m all stressed out?”)(www.psychologytoday.com)

As we get older worrying gets stronger and more solidified because maybe some of the things we worried about came true, or have a form of truth. So we worry a lot more and this worrying develops into deep seated worries over our lifetime, and evolve to self-perpetuating nature of our worries:

On top of the self-perpetuating nature of worry, there are 5 common beliefs about worry that compel us to keep doing it:

  1. If I worry, I’ll never have a bad surprise.

Nobody likes to be blindsided by bad news, so we might worry to preempt disappointment. Unfortunately we can’t foresee everything that will happen to us, so it’s impossible to avoid upsets. In the meantime, how much are we suffering by fearing the future?

  1. It’s safer if I worry.

Our beliefs about worry can have a superstitious element because we believe that the act of worrying itself somehow lowers the likelihood of a dreaded outcome. We might think that if we stop worrying we’d be inviting trouble. But if we constantly worry, we never get to test out this belief to see if it’s true. Most of the time our worries are about as impactful as mentally “keeping the plane up” when flying in an airplane (assuming we’re not the pilot).

  1. I show I care by worrying.

We might tell ourselves that worrying says something good about us: “I only worry because I care.” This may be true, but we too often turn it around and think, “If I didn’t worry it would mean I don’t care.” We need to distinguish between caring about a situation—including doing everything in our power to help it turn out well—and worrying needlessly and fruitlessly about it. If in doubt, we can ask family members if they’d rather we worry or show we care in other ways.

  1. Worrying motivates me.

It’s not uncommon to believe that if we stop worrying, we’ll become complacent or unproductive. Think about a recent time you were gripped with worry: Can you imagine yourself being motivated to take care of the situation, even if you weren’t worrying so much? We need to differentiate between unproductive worry and productive concern and problem solving.

  1. Worrying helps me solve problems.

We might tell ourselves that worrying is how we find solutions to our problems. However, extreme worry is more likely to interfere with problem-solving. Once more, we need to be aware of the difference between productive problem-solving and wheel-spinning worry. Consider these two modes in your own experience: How does it feel to be taking care of a problem vs. worrying about all the what ifs?

At this point, you might be thinking, “This is all well and good, but how am I supposed to worry less?” Let’s be honest: It’s really hard to stop worrying, so it helps to have multiple tools to assist us with the process. Here are 5:

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How to Stop Worrying

  1. Calm the nervous system.

When we’re constantly worried and on edge, our nervous system is on high alert. Mental tension translates into physical tension, which can make us feel like we really should worry because we’re feeling so physically agitated. It can help to have ways to quiet our mind and body and find a sense of ease. There are multiple ways to do this, such as guided muscle relaxation, meditation, and exercise. (Here’s a simple, one-minute exercise that you can practice virtually anywhere.)

  1. Notice when you’re worrying and any beliefs that reinforce worry.

We often don’t recognize what our mind is up to. We might be aware of feeling anxious and stressed but we don’t realize that we have some degree of choice in letting go of worries. Awareness of the process gives us more choice in how we respond.

  1. Embrace uncertainty.

Most of the things we care about in life involve uncertainty. We can’t be absolutely sure we’ll do well in school, that people will like us, that we’ll always have our health, or that we’ll have a happy marriage. And yet we don’t have to allow this uncertainty to stop us from living the life we want. Beyond simply tolerating uncertainty, we can embrace it as an inherent part of living. We spend so much time trying to eliminate uncertainty that it takes considerable practice to begin to embrace it.

  1. Live in the present.

Training in mindful awareness is often a part of the treatment for excessive worry (as in generalized anxiety disorder). Mindfulness emphasizes focusing our mental energy on the present, with openness and acceptance—an attitude that is helpful on many levels. Worry is by definition about the future, so training your attention on the present is a powerful way to reduce your worries. We can practice focusing our attention on the present in everyday activities like taking a shower, walking, or talking with a friend, as well as in more formal practices like meditation or yoga.

  1. Face your fears.

Worry is intended to protect us from our fear, and yet it can lead to dwelling on things that will never happen. When we face our fears head-on, they tend to diminish. Rather than worrying uselessly, we can practice deliberately accepting that what we’re afraid of could happen: “It’s possible I’ll miss my flight.” “I can’t know for sure that this sniffle won’t turn into a nasty cold.” “I can’t be entirely sure I won’t lose my job.” At first it will probably feel frightening. With repeated practice, though, our fears become less gripping and we can confront them with greater equanimity.

In Conclusion:

It takes practice to worry less when we’re in the habit of worrying. Even when we’re determined to leave our worries behind, our mind will almost certainly will return to them. Dropping our worries is a lot like meditating: Our thoughts will return to our worries, just as our minds will wander from the breath when we meditate. We can set an intention, and then return to it when we notice our mind has drifted. We can’t eliminate all worries, but we can choose where we direct our attention.


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Do You Want to be a DJ? Week 3.5: Cont. Choosing Your Digital D.J. Software  

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Serato Scratch Live Review

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When it comes to DJing software, there are a lot of options out there that could do all kinds of things, but one of the most beloved ones out there is the Serato Scratch Live. It’s an example of vinyl emulation software which allows the user to use their conventional physical turntables to control and manipulate the playback of digital audio.

To put it more simply, this piece of software allows you to use your turntables as an interface for your digital music files. This means you can utilize all kinds of DJing techniques using your turntables like scratching and beatmatching, but with all the songs in your digital audio collection, not just the ones that are part of your regular vinyl collection. This type of emulation provides the closest possible digital DJing experience to analog DJing with actual physical records.

How Does Serato Scratch Live Actually Work? (Requirements and Limitations)

Having your regular vinyl turntables control your wavs and mp3s sounds really neat and it is, but when you start thinking about it, you will soon realize that your turntables and the piece of software would not actually be enough. This is why you cannot really use the Serato Scratch Live software without pairing it up with some compatible hardware. You need a special mixer, audio card and special vinyl records.

Making It All Work

In order for this nifty set up to work, the computer that is going to handle the files needs to know and understand what you are doing on your turntables. If you put in a normal record with some regular tracks on it, your output will simply be too confusing and the computer has only your audio line out to guide it on how you need it to twist and turn the audio file it’s playing. That’s why Serato have created special time-coded vinyl records that produce analog sound that is easy for your computer to interpret.

So when you start slowing down, scratching or adjusting the time-coded vinyl record on your conventional turn table, your computer would know exactly what you’re doing and would do the same thing with the file it’s playing. This means that you could be scratching using an mp3 file from your computer as if it was a physical record that you can put on your conventional turntable and manipulate.

But the record is not the only thing that you would need. You need some high quality audio interface with your computer and a mixer that can also tell the software what is going on. That is why besides the software you are going to need at least some basic controller from Serato and some time-coded records and you can also get a special mixer from Rane that is specifically created to interface between your turntables and your computer with the Serato Scratch Live running on it.

Important Notice

It’s quite important for you to be aware of one more thing – Serato have actually discontinued the Scratch Live software and hardware and have moved on to Serato DJ which is a similar piece of software. This means that you might have to get many of the required hardware and accessories second-hand.

Here’s a selection of the stuff you need to get your Serato setup going…

My Amazon Picks

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Why would anyone use the old version when they can use Serato DJ?

That’s a very good question with a pretty interesting answer. If you really look into what professional DJs are using in order to be able to manipulate digital tracks using their conventional turntables, you’ll find out that many of them still use this version and there might be a few different reasons why.

First of all, Serato Scratch Live works great, and with the right settings produces great audio quality and provides a very realistic feel. And when something works well, many people are reluctant to upgrade or move to a brand new platform. Nostalgia might also be part of it. Others just can kill with it so why not? Mix Master Mike…

But also, using old software that produces the required results has some distinct advantages. When Serato Scratch Live first came out, computers were much less powerful and it managed to run robustly on the machines that were available back then. This means you don’t need state of the art equipment to run it today and could easily have an outdated but robust laptop handle your needs. It makes it easier to afford a dedicated machine for the purpose of running the software and when you do fewer things on a device like that, crashes become much less likely. So getting a complete dedicated setup ends up being more affordable if you use the discontinued version.

Pros & Cons

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Every product out there has its own set of strengths and weaknesses, but this is especially true if you are considering something like the Serato Scratch Live which is no longer supported. This is an obvious tradeoff and there need to be some killer features for it to be justifiable, so let’s look into what’s on offer and what’s not.


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  • Offers a real DJing experience but with digital files
  • You don’t need to lug around a huge vinyl record collection to live shows, just a laptop with the tracks digitized
  • You can use a cheaper older laptop as part of your setup
  • Excellent audio quality (pro tip: if your computer is powerful enough, decrease the USB buffer size to the minimum to increase the audio quality and response)
  • A product beloved by a number of professional DJs
  • Supports wav, mp3, aiff, ogg, non-DRM aac


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  • Not supported anymore
  • No more software upgrades
  • You need to purchase some physical equipment to make it work

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Serato Scratch Live is a legend and getting to know it might still be a great idea. It still gets the job done with the best of them while costing less. It allows you to get the best of both worlds – work with a real vinyl record and a turntable while actually controlling a digital audio file. Continue to follow and learn more as we bring you next week, Week Four: “ Getting Music.”

Human Remedies That Help Pets

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In most American homes families always include a pet, and this pet is a actual member of the family with all the rights and privileges. Its love like everyone else, its feed like everyone else, and its added to pictures and selfies like everyone else. Pet and humans have a very symbiotic relationship because we are both animals in different evolutionary poles of the evolutionary scales. Moreover we live in the same space, so what happens to one of us, will eventually happen to all of us including our pets. With this interconnectiveness there are things that humans and animals pass from one species to the other,and sometimes back and forth, that can be anything from food to germ, some diseases and even similar remedies to these germs and diseases.

With this blog I will tell you of some Human products that can eventually become remedies that will help or even cure your pets.

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Natural Ingredients, less cost to incur and keeping your carbon foot/paw print in check.

1. Gross Out Fleas With Citrus

Fleas don’t like citrus, make your pet’s fur unsavory by rubbing it with a small amount of fresh lemon or orange juice. Bonus points for putting mostly-juiced citrus rinds to use.

2. Repel Biters With Brewer’s Yeast

A dose of brewer’s yeast mixed with a small amount of garlic in dry food daily will help to repel fleas for dogs. For cats, add brewer’s yeast to food, but don’t use garlic with cats(it can lead to anemia for felines).

3. Drown Fleas With…Wait for It…Water!

Fleas aren’t so grabby when deluged with the miracle solution known as water. Dip your pet in a tub of water and rinse as well as you can. A gentle shampoo (or natural liquid dish detergent) can help as well.

4. Clean the House to Make Fleas Sad

Tidy housekeeping can do a lot to keep the flea community down. Frequently vacuum your pet’s favorite hang-out spot, launder pet blankets, towels and beds, and keep the floor clean with a natural disinfectant.

5. Feed Flea Babies to the Worms

Beneficial nematode worms, available at garden shops and pet stores, like to eat flea larva. Keeping them in the garden can help keep outdoor flea populations controlled.

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6. Make a Rose Geranium Tick Collar

Rose geranium essential oil is successful for repelling ticks from dogs, apply a few dabs to your dog’s collar. (Not recommended for cats.)

7. Dress Your Pup in Pants to Deter Ticks

When romping in the woods or fields of tall grass, fashion some trousers for your pooch out of old socks, a child’s sweater, a shirt…whatever will impede the ticks from latching on. DIY doggy leg warmers won’t completely eliminate the chance for ticks to hitch a ride, but it can help.

8. Protect the Pooch’s Toots with Booties

Dog paws and ice/snow/salt are an ouchy mix for dogs. Invest in a double pair of dog booties to protect tender feet from the winter elements or for hiking in rugged terrain. Proud dogs may feel shame, but their paws will thank them.

9. Treat the Feet

If your dog’s dogs seem sore from rough terrain, hot or cold pavement, or any other reason, check the paws and toes. Remove anything that doesn’t belong there, wash gently, and apply a gentle moisturizer. If bleeding, apply antibiotic ointment and gently bandage them.

10. Spray Chamomile for Icky Skin

Chamomile tea is great for alleviating skin irritations. Make tea, put it in a spray bottle in the refrigerator, and apply it to your pets raw skin.

11. Pamper the Pup with Vitamin E

A dog’s dry skin can benefit greatly from applications of vitamin E oil to affected areas.

12. Kick the Itch with Oatmeal

Scratch scratch scratch. Scratch scratch scratch. All day, all night – it’s enough to drive a pet-owner absolutely bonky. Use baby oatmeal (or fine-grind your own), add a little water, and rub the paste onto itchy areas. Leave on for 10 minutes and rinse with warm water. Seriously good trick.

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Flavorless electrolyte drinks, like sports waters and pediatric drinks, can help a sick dog recoup necessary fluids after a bout of diarrhea or vomiting. (Check with your vet about how much to give.)

14. Make a Happy Tummy

Just like people, pets on antibiotics may have stomach problems as the medication wipes out beneficial bacteria as well as the sinister ones. A little yogurt (with live active cultures) with dinner will help the stomach.

15. Relax Aching Eyes

If you pet’s eyes seem irritated or infected, a warm chamomile tea bag can be used to soothe them.

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Your suddenly limping dog may have strained or sprained something playing too exuberantly, so it’s time to try the world famous granny remedy of an Epsom salt soak. Add ½ cup Espom salt to a warm bath and let your dog soak for five minutes, twice daily. If your dog doesn’t agree with you on this method, you can soak a washcloth in Epsom salt and warm water and apply just to the local area.

17. Reduce Facial Hot Spots by Switching Bowls

If your pet eats from plastic bowls and suffers from chronic hot spots, irritation, or allergic reactions around the face, the fix may be as easy as changing to a glass or metal bowl. Plastic harbors bacteria and other nastiness that can be very irritating. After you change, also be sure to wash the bowls thoroughly once a week.

18. Fight Hairballs With Butter

Cat. Hairballs. Ick. The grooming brush is your best defense against hairballs, a daily brush followed by a wipe from a moist towel should help considerably. But during high hairball season, a half a teaspoon of butter for a few days can really help. (That’s half a teaspoon of butter for the cat, not you.)

19. Administer Juice for the Bladder

Cats are naturally prone to bladder and urethra issues. If yours is so, unsweetened cranberry juice to the rescue. Cranberry increases urine acidity resulting in a reduced chance of blockages or infections. You can add cranberry powder to food, or cranberry juice to the water, or give your cat a cranberry capsule. Ask your vet about proper dosages.

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In older animals, digestion can get a bit bumpy. If your pet is more mellow than usual, seems to be straining, and makes frequent toilet attempts, constipation may be the problem. Adding canned pumpkin or diced prunes to food could get things started again.

For a sever case, try mixing in a tablespoon of Milk of Magnesia. Note: Prune pits are toxic to both animals and humans, so make sure they are pit-free.

21. When They Eat Something They Shouldn’t Have…

Dogs eat just about anything, and there are many things that cats shouldn’t – so if your pet devours something toxic, you can use hydrogen peroxide to induce vomiting. Give them one teaspoon per five pounds of body weight, and repeat once if needed. (Call your vet, too.)(www.treehugger.com)

Top 10 List of Over-the-Counter Human Meds That Can Be Used on Pets BY DR. PATTY KHULY VMD

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Here are my top 10 picks, which are peppered liberally with disclaimers about always asking your vet first before using any drug. Remember: O-T-C doesn’t necessarily mean S-A-F-E!

  1. Pepcid AC (famotidine)
  2. Tagamet HB (cimetidine)

These stomach drugs, which hinder the body’s production of GI acids, are great for pets when gastric juices flow into overdrive. They’re mostly given to dogs for simple gastritis (stomach inflammation), which can result from a number of tummy insults — self-inflicted through “dietary indiscretion” or otherwise.

Dosage depends on the pet’s size, other drugs administered and your pet’s general condition. Always check with your vet first to get the go-ahead and the right dosage.

  1. Aspirin

Although most vets no longer recommend aspirin for pain — why use a less potent, more stomach-harming drug when safer, more effective ones are available? —some of us still rely on it when a canine client is far away and nothing else is available.

As a rule, I never recommend using aspirin more than two days in a row and never in combination with other NSAIDs, such as Rimadyl, Metacam and Derramax. Drug interactions with aspirin are not uncommon, so don’t automatically assume it’s safe to give it to your pet.

Some cats may also do well with small doses of aspirin, but this is much more controversial –– too much so for the purposes of this discussion. So always check with your veterinarian before even considering this OTC approach with your cat.

  1. Artificial tears and other ophthalmic lubricants

Genteal and Soothe XP are my favorites for getting the red out. I love these preparations for minor eye irritations –– they’re the ultimate do-no-harm optical treatment.

Most of the time, very mild conjunctivitis (slight weepiness or redness around the eyes) will clear up within a few days of simple soothing with artificial tears. But if your pet has white, yellow or greenish discharge; extreme redness or swelling; or if the eye obviously hurts (your pet will wink or close the eye), skip this step and immediately head to the vet! Even a day is too long with a painful eye.

  1. Benadryl (diphenhydramine)
  2. Zyrtec (cetirizine)
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These are great, easy-going drugs used for common cases of the itches or the first sign of hives. I use them liberally in my practice, but they don’t lack side effects. Other OTC antihistamines may also be effective for allergic reactions in pets, but Benadryl, Zyrtec and Claritin are most commonly recommended.

Be warned: Some pets will feel the sedating effects more than others, especially those who are also taking mood-altering drugs, certain pain relievers and seizure medications. You should also note that the dosage can be significantly different for pets than for humans, so call your vet first and ask if it’s OK.

  1. Neosporin and antibiotic gels

Minor cuts and abrasions love this gel. I tend to recommend them only for the slightest of scrapes, and they should be applied onto clean skin in a very light coat for only a day or two — that’s all it should take.

Some issues to be aware of with these ointments: People tend to buy fancy ones with tetracaine, hydrocortisone and other ingredients that can hinder healing for some wounds. And pets like to lick wounds, especially when their attention is drawn to them via smelly gels. In these cases, they’re contraindicated –– the risk is greater than the reward.

  1. Corticosteroid sprays, gels and creams

Standard OTC corticosteroid sprays and creams, such as hydrocortisone, can be lifesavers in a pinch when itchy red patches and hot spots appear. But you should know that the sprays can be stingy (they typically contain alcohol). The gels and creams are great — unless, of course, they attract your pet to lick the itchy spot.

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An OTC product containing miconazole (or one of several other common antifungal drugs) will sometimes resolve uncomplicated fungal infections. Unfortunately, most fungal infections in pets aren’t uncomplicated. Still, I’ve often sent clients to the drugstore for an OTC antifungal to keep a pet comfortable until they can come in for an office visit.

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More Dosage and Treatment For Pets at Home With Household Items


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Safe Human Medicines for Pets


Use: Benadryl works well if your pet has an allergic reaction, but only if your vet says it’s OK to use.

Dosage: 25 milligrams for pets up to 30 pounds, 50 mg for pets up to 80 pounds and 75 mg for pets over 80 pounds. Use one dose every six hours.

Hydrogen Peroxide

Use: Hydrogen peroxide can be used to induce vomiting if your pet has gotten into something he shouldn’t. It’s important that you use the 3 percent solution — you’ll find that information right on the label.

Dosage: One teaspoon for every five pounds, up to five tablespoons. It’s a good idea to write down how much your pet can take and post it on the fridge or somewhere easy to find, because when you need to induce vomiting, it’s usually an emergency and you don’t want to waste time doing the math.

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Use: For an upset stomach, you can use Pepto-Bismol for dogs, but never cats. Pepto-Bismol contains an aspirin like substance that cats can’t tolerate.

Dosage: A child’s dose, as indicated on the package, for every 40 pounds of pet. So if your dog is 10 pounds, you’d use a quarter dose; an 80-pound dog would get two doses.

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Corn Starch or All-Purpose Flour: Most of us have these items in our cupboards, and they are great to stop minor bleeding, such as bleeding around your pet’s nails. Just pack it on, and it will stop the bleeding and soak up the blood.

Contact Lens Saline Solution: You can use contact lens solution to flush out wounds. The solution is basically saline, which is what is used in emergency rooms to clean out wounds.

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Baking Soda: This is great for treating bee stings in pets and people. Bees leave a stinger attached to a venom sac, and you want to remove the stinger without breaking the sac. Mix some baking soda and water into a paste, let it dry, and then use a credit card to gently scrape out the stinger.

Betadine Solution (an antiseptic): This is a safe iodine solution often kept around the house as an antiseptic to use on cuts to clean and prevent infection.

In Conclusion:

Pets can be a heartfelt and sometimes a handful, and when they are sick it can be a bigger challenge,treating a sickly, itchy, achy, pet’s bo bo’s and allergies. So I thought that I give some help with you budget, while you are nursing your babies back to health. I hope this blog gave some suggestions and insights as you living, loving, enjoying and growing with you pets.

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Fear Of Failure In Relationships

I have a tendency to sabotage relationships; I have a tendency to sabotage everything. Fear of success, fear of failure, fear of being afraid. Useless, good-for-nothing thoughts. - Michael Buble

It was a normal day for Jennifer in the bookstore, she chose this career after a long marathon dating session of losers, she got the idea from her mother, she told her “If you want to find a man, you have to date a lot of men and see which one that’s your type.” So she listened and afterwards felt as filthy as a old nasty ashtray and thought she smelled like one to. Feeling “rolled hard and put away wet” she said to herself, “I need something new to detox and purge all this dating episode out of my mind. So she set out leaving her job and a financial analyst on wall street and move to this small town outside of New York City with maybe 2000 residence, and made a new home.

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Resting and reading, self help books at the town’s Bookstore she felt very rested, so after resting for four weeks she felt like she needed something to do, so while overhearing the proprietor conversation on the phone about their bookkeeping issues, she inquired about a job as a bookkeeper, and it’s been a little slice of heaven since. Then “IT” happened, without a moment’s notice, He filled the doorway with all the grandeur of a romance novel: Long black hair, muscular build, great smile, and kind. She looked at every movement he made and couldn’t take her eyes off of him, then she thought to herself, “How dare he come into her place of employment, my place of Zen, my place of peace dreams, my hideaway!!!” But he didn’t do any of those things, he just came to the bookstore to find a book.

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Pushing all those romantic feeling aside, she continued to take books from the new boxes, clean them and put them on the shelves, these things she did when she had free time after finishing the financial books early. She also used this ruse, to get another look at “him.”.

Just as she finished putting the last book on the shelf he also finished his shopping and came to the counter to purchases, she responded to him coldly, thinking to herself, that he might be full of himself, without getting to know him and giving him a chance. After he left she asked herself: “what am I doing? his perfect” What is Wrong with me? Beating herself up and continue to wonder she called her mom. Mom was Mary Ann Johnson, a retired teacher and grandmother of Jennifer’s brothers Tom’s boys. She was working in her garden but alway there when Jennifer has a life challenge.

The phone “rings” and Mary picks up the receiver: Hello Mom? Jennifer asks, Yes baby, Mom responds. Jennifer say: “Mom you alway catch my voice,” Mom continues: Your my baby, I can’t never forget your voice. Then Jennifer unloaded: “Well Mom, I did it, I just allow the perfect man to walk out of the store and out of my life, and I don’t know why? Mom said I know why baby it might be too soon and you have the dating Idea of “fear of failure.” “and Also You might be a little afraid to love again.” Mom Sent Her some Article about it that read:

10 Signs You Might Have a Fear of Failure

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The following are not official diagnostics—but if you feel that these criteria are very characteristic of you (very being an important distinguishing marker, since as we all feel these things to some extent), you might want to examine the issue further, either by doing more reading about it or talking to a mental health professional.

  1. Failing makes you worry about what other people think about you.
  2. Failing makes you worry about your ability to pursue the future you desire.
  3. Failing makes you worry that people will lose interest in you.
  4. Failing makes you worry about how smart or capable you are.
  5. Failing makes you worry about disappointing people whose opinion you value.
  6. You tend to tell people beforehand that you don’t expect to succeed in order to lower their expectations.
  7. Once you fail at something, you have trouble imagining what you could have done differently to succeed.
  8. You often get last-minute headaches, stomach aches, or other physical symptoms that prevent you from completing your preparation.
  9. You often get distracted by tasks that prevent you from completing your preparation which, in hindsight, were not as urgent as they seemed at the time.
  10. You tend to procrastinate and “run out of time” to complete you preparation adequately. (See procrastination expert Dr. Timothy Pychyl’s article about fear of failure here.)

What to Do When You Have a Fear of Failure

The primary problem with addressing a fear of failure is that it tends to operate on an unconscious level. For example, you might feel it’s essential to finish writing out your Christmas cards because you promised to send them off by the end of the weekend—even though you’re also about to take your final exams.

But there are two important things you can do to conquer the maladaptive ways a fear of failure can influence your behavior:

  1. Own the fear. It is important to accept that failure makes you feel both fear and shame, and to find trusted others with whom you can discuss these feelings. Bringing these feelings to the surface can help prevent you from expressing them through unconscious efforts to sabotage yourself, and getting reassurance and empathy from trusted others can bolster your feelings of self-worth while minimizing the threat of disappointing them.
  2. Focus on aspects in your control. Identify aspects of the task or preparation that are in your control and focus on those. Brainstorm ways to reframe aspects of the task that seem out of your control such that you regain control of them. For example, If you’ve failed to find work because you just don’t know ” the right people,” set the goal of expanding your network by going through your address book, Facebook and social media contacts, and reaching out to everyone you know who might help—even if they are not in your field, they might know someone who is.

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It doesn’t have to be this way. There is another way to deal with fear:

  1. Name the underlying fear. Some examples are: Fear of falling apart, fear of rejection, fear of not being understood, fear of being judged, fear of being alone, fear of loss, fear of change, fear of aging, fear of being overwhelmed, fear of your needs being ignored, fear of boredom, fear of lack of control, fear of failure, and fear of helplessness.
  2. Tell your partner that you have some fear arising inside of you, and share those fears. Own your fears instead of blaming your partner. For example, say ‘I am feeling afraid of a loss of control of our finances’ instead of ‘You always have to be the boss with our money.’
  3. Listen to your partner’s fears. Do not try to minimize, negate or ‘fix’ the fears. Do not try to bully your partner’s fear into submission. Do not belittle, humiliate, shame, and threaten the fear. Do not make snide remarks such as ‘Oh, you are always afraid of something,’ or ‘Why can’t you just relax and be happy for once?’ By trying to run the fear out of town, this technique to try to avoid a difficult conversation will backfire and leave you with a bigger mess.
  4. Recognize that your partner’s fears are likely to trigger your own fears. For example, if your partner voices a fear of boredom, you may interpret this to mean that he or she is judging you as not being interesting enough, and you may feel a deep fear of rejection. It is important that you do not take over the whole discussion with your reaction-fear, and leave no space for your partner’s fear. On the other hand, it is also important that you make some room for your own fear, letting your partner know how you feel.
  5. Focus on the fear and do not get detoured into specific details of the relationship.For example, don’t let ‘I feel fear of loss of control of our finances’ turn into ‘Why can’t you stop spending money on golf?’ Plan to discuss concrete and practical relationship issues at another time, when fear is not running the show. (And then stick to that plan!)
  6. Contain the fears within boundaries. Recognize that these ‘fear’ talks will occur regularly throughout the course of the relationship, but keep each discussion within a reasonable time limit, such as 10 to 20 minutes. Kindly support each other to move on and enjoy life once the fears have been named and heard. Don’t set the boundary with anger and bullying by saying things like ‘Aren’t we done with this yet? Can’t you just let it go already?’ If one person is not done processing, gently but firmly plan for another time to talk the next day.

No one is very good at this. It goes against our lifelong patterns that have been set up to push fear away. Even if we move slowly in this direction, however, it can lead to a triumph of love over the destructive potential of fear, and make the difference between a relationship living or dying. That is not to say that love and acceptance transforms fear into rainbows and butterflies. Even within the arms of love, fear is still raw, painful, and deeply unsettling. But when fear becomes an accepted ‘citizen’ in the relationship, it is no longer the enemy. It’s just the colicky baby that needs your time and attention once in a while.(Don’t Let Fear Destroy Your Relationship By Danielle B. Grossman, MFT)

Seven Signs You Are Afraid Of Love

  1. Real love makes us feel vulnerable.

A new relationship is uncharted territory, and most of us have natural fears of the unknown. Letting ourselves fall in love means taking a real risk. We are placing a great amount of trust in another person, allowing them to affect us, which makes us feel exposed and vulnerable. Our core defenses are challenged. Any habits we’ve long had that allow us to feel self-focused or self-contained start to fall by the wayside. We tend to believe that the more we care, the more we can get hurt.

  1. New love stirs up past hurts.

When we enter into a relationship, we are rarely fully aware of how we’ve been impacted by our history. The ways we were hurt in previous relationships, starting from our childhood, have a strong influence on how we perceive the people we get close to as well as how we act in our romantic relationships. Old, negative dynamics may make us wary of opening ourselves up to someone new. We may steer away from intimacy, because it stirs up old feelings of hurt, loss, anger or rejection. As Dr. Pat Love said in an interview with PsychAlive, “when you long for something, like love, it becomes associated with pain,” the pain you felt at not having it in the past.

  1. Love challenges an old identity.

Many of us struggle with underlying feelings of being unlovable. We have trouble feeling our own value and believing anyone could really care for us. We all have a “critical inner voice,” which acts like a cruel coach inside our heads that tells us we are worthless or undeserving of happiness. This coach is shaped from painful childhood experiences and critical attitudes we were exposed to early in life as well as feelings our parents had about themselves.

While these attitudes can be hurtful, over time, they have become ingrained in us. As adults, we may fail to see them as an enemy, instead accepting their destructive point of view as our own. These critical thoughts or “inner voices” are often harmful and unpleasant, but they’re also comfortable in their familiarity. When another person sees us differently from our voices, loving and appreciating us, we may actually start to feel uncomfortable and defensive, as it challenges these long-held points of identification.

  1. With real joy comes real pain.

Any time we fully experience true joy or feel the preciousness of life on an emotional level, we can expect to feel a great amount of sadness. Many of us shy away from the things that would make us happiest, because they also make us feel pain. The opposite is also true. We cannot selectively numb ourselves to sadness without numbing ourselves to joy. When it comes to falling in love, we may be hesitant to go “all in,” for fear of the sadness it would stir up in us.

  1. Love is often unequal.

Many people I’ve talked to have expressed hesitation over getting involved with someone, because that person “likes them too much.” They worry that if they got involved with this person, their own feelings wouldn’t evolve, and the other person would wind up getting hurt or feeling rejected. The truth is that love is often imbalanced, with one person feeling more or less from moment to moment. Our feelings toward someone are an ever-changing force. In a matter of seconds, we can feel anger, irritation or even hate for a person we love. Worrying over how we will feel keeps us from seeing where our feelings would naturally go. It’s better to be open to how our feelings develop over time. Allowing worry or guilt over how we may or may not feel keeps us from getting to know someone who is expressing interest in us and may prevent us from forming a relationship that could really make us happy.

  1. Relationships can break your connection to your family.

Relationships can be the ultimate symbol of growing up. They represent starting our own lives as independent, autonomous individuals. This development can also represent a parting from our family. Much like breaking from an old identity, this separation isn’t physical. It doesn’t mean literally giving up our family, but rather letting go on an emotional level – no longer feeling like a kid and differentiating from the more negative dynamics that plagued our early relationships and shaped our identity.

  1. Love stirs up existential fears.

The more we have, the more we have to lose. The more someone means to us, the more afraid we are of losing that person. When we fall in love, we not only face the fear of losing our partner, but we become more aware of our mortality. Our life now holds more value and meaning, so the thought of losing it becomes more frightening. In an attempt to cover over this fear, we may focus on more superficial concerns, pick fights with our partner or, in extreme cases, completely give up the relationship. We are rarely fully aware of how we defend against these existential fears. We may even try to rationalize to ourselves a million reasons we shouldn’t be in the relationship. However, the reasons we give may have workable solutions, and what’s really driving us are those deeper fears of loss.

Most relationships bring up an onslaught of challenges. Getting to know our fears of intimacy and how they inform our behavior is an important step to having a fulfilling, long-term relationship. These fears can be masked by various justifications for why things aren’t working out—but we may be surprised to learn about all of the ways that we self-sabotage when we get close to someone else. By getting to know ourselves, we give ourselves the best chance of finding and maintaining lasting love.( Psychology Today.com)

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  1. Look at your history – As we delve into the ways we defend against love, it’s helpful to look at our past. We can start by looking at our current or recent relationships. Where are the stumbling blocks? If the relationship has ended, where did it go wrong? What issues keep/kept coming up? What ways might we be pushing/have pushed love away? What thoughts inspired these actions? What were we telling ourselves the last time we provoked our partner, started a fight, acted coldly, rejected a loved one, refused an invitation, ignored or withheld affection, sloughed off a compliment, etc?

As we identify the thoughts or “critical inner voices” that filled our heads on these occasions, we can start to recognize themes and recurring behaviors and begin to identify patterns. We can see how our own defenses systematically operate to ward off love. We may notice that we have trouble being acknowledged by our partner or that we feel angry when he or she relies on us. We may feel repelled by a loving look or be quick to feel insecure or rejected.

Once we start to know our patterns, we can trace them back to their roots. We can look back to our childhoods to see where these adaptations may have come from. Were you rejected or intruded on by a parent or caretaker? Were you put down in your family? Did you observe destructive interactions between your parents? Did you notice negative dynamics in their relationship that influenced how you now act in yours?

The attitudes and behaviors we witnessed and experienced as children often subconsciously shape the ways we think and act as adults. Having someone love us or look at us differently from how we were looked at as kids presents a unique challenge that few of us anticipate in our adult relationships. Having a satisfying, loving adult romantic relationship often represents a break with our families’ patterns of relating.

Differentiating ourselves from our family of origin and having a sense of our own unique identity, while a positive development, will likely stir us up. Yet, failing to differentiate from negative or self-limiting adaptations to our past circumstances will make it difficult for us to live our own lives as happy, individuated adults, much less happy, individuated and in love adults. As we come to understand how our past informs our present, we can perform one of the most beneficial acts to improving our love lives – we can put our emotions and projections back where they belong. For example, we can stop seeing our partner as rejecting or suspicious.

  1. Stop listening to your inner critic – Try to recognize that little voice in your head that feeds you information like, “He doesn’t really love you. Don’t be a fool. Get moving before he really hurts you.” Think about how this critical inner voice coaches you to avoid feeling intimate or vulnerable. “She is just manipulating you. Don’t let her get to know the real you. You can’t trust anyone.” Think about how it puts you and others down, injuring your confidence. “You’re too ugly/fat/poor/awkward to have a relationship. No one will be interested.”

Throughout your life, this cruel and conniving thought process will try to lure you away from finding love. Identifying it will help you to stop seeing it as reality or your own point of view. It will allow you to separate and to act against its harmful directives. Remember that letting go of your inner critic means letting go of an old identity that, although unpleasant, can also feel safe in its familiarity. Breaking from this critic will rouse anxiety, but it poses a battle well worth fighting. Powering through this anxiety and refuting your inner critic at every turn will allow you to uncover and become your truest self.

  1. Challenge your defenses – It’s easy to fall back to those old, comforting activities that keep us feeling sheltered and alone. Even though, they may make us feel lonely, unfulfilled or hardened against love, we revert to our defenses like a heavy blanket shielding us from the world. Our defenses, no matter how alluring they may sound, are not our friend. They are there to keep us from achieving our goals.

It may have felt threatening, even dangerous, to open up to someone as a child or show our feelings in our family, but these same defenses are no longer constructive to us in our current relationships. Perhaps, pretending we didn’t care helped guard us from the pain of feeling neglected or invisible, however that same attitude will make it hard to accept loving feelings that are extended to us today. As we learn how adaptations that served us in our childhood are harmful to us in the present, we can act against these almost instinctive behaviors and, over time, become who we want to be in our relationships.

  1. Feel your feelings – We’re all familiar with the expression, “Love makes us feel alive,” and it’s one cliché that’s entirely true. Love makes us feel. It deepens our capacity for joy, passion and vitality. However, it also makes us more susceptible to pain and loss. Falling in love can remind us of previous hurts. It can awaken us to existential realities. Unfortunately, we can’t selectively numb our feelings. When we try to avoid pain, we subdue joy and love.

Caring deeply for another person makes us feel more deeply in general. When these emotions arise, we should be open to feeling them. We may worry that strong feelings will overpower us or take over our lives, but in truth, feelings are transitory if we don’t try to block them. For example, sadness comes in waves, and when we allow ourselves to feel it, we also open ourselves up to feeling a tremendous amount of joy.

I recently heard the comedian Louis C.K. perfectly and succinctly capture this point in an anecdote on late night talk show, saying, “Sadness is poetic. You’re lucky to live sad moments… Because when you let yourself feel sad, your body has antibodies, it has happiness that comes rushing in to meet the sadness.” Sadness can be a good sign that we are more open and vulnerable. Similarly, anxiety can be a sign that we are changing or developing ourselves in ways that will positively impact our lives.

  1. Be vulnerable and open – So many of us live in fear of being vulnerable. We are told early on to be smart and toughen up. The dating world accepts, even promotes a culture of game-playing. Don’t call her for at least three days. Don’t say “I love you” first. Don’t tell him how you feel. Don’t let her see how much you like her. Being vulnerable is a mark of strength, not weakness. It means ignoring the voices in your head and acting on how you really feel. When you do this, you learn that you can survive, even when you get hurt. You’ll be able to live with more honesty and possibility, knowing that you’ve stayed yourself, even when the world around you wasn’t perfect.

Staying yourself doesn’t mean getting set in your ways or closing off to new experiences. Being vulnerable means just the opposite – a willingness to be open to new people and to breaking old patterns. If you typically choose dominant or controlling partners, only to find yourself in a relationship you resent, try dating someone different with more flexibility. Avoid making hard and fast rules about relationships. Follow what you feel, all the while finding strength in the knowledge that no one else controls your happiness, you do. You can avoid falling victim to the outside world and to your own inner critic by continuing to act with integrity, dropping your defenses to become your real self.

Committing to these actions and investing in your relationships are both part of a natural process of growing into and becoming your own person. It’s a matter of severing the more destructive, often imaginary ties to your past and unleashing a newfound sense of self – a self that is now capable of having a loving relationship with another unique individual. When we brave the barriers we alone put up inside ourselves, we learn to live “all in.”

We can start challenging ourselves to accept love – to return a loving look, rather than turn away in embarrassment. We can act in ways that our partner would experience as loving, rather than holding back and being self-protective. We can approach our defenses with curiosity and compassion and slowly start to change our part of the equation that limits our capacity for love.

Yes, we may get hurt along the way by the shortcomings in others, but it’s important to note that, as adults, we are resilient. When we open ourselves up to love, we create the world we live in. Real love radiates out and is supported by and extended to others. Its contagious effects are likely to reflect back on us, filling our lives with meaningful interactions and relationships. As this occurs, life is sure to feel more precious, but isn’t that the idea? (PsychologyToday.com).

After group therapy and some counseling, she was on her way to recovery. Oh yeah and she also needed the yellowpages.com because after fishing out his recept, she had to find her perfect man again.

Don’t let your bad dating experiences stop you from trying to find love again, make dating fun again by getting over you shortcoming, and I hope this will help you as it did with Jennifer!!!

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Do You Want To Be A D.J? A Weekly Series: Week Three

Week Three: Getting a DJ Friend and Choosing Your Digital D.J.Software

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You got all your new equipment in the mail, and because it’s Christmas, it feels like Christmas, and the season to be jolly. You unwrap everything being careful, not to bump or drop any of your new or used products.

Let’s take an inventory: Speakers, make sure they are not home speakers but dj speakers, Headphones, they can’t be wireless because you can be tethered to your connector you have to wired to it, and it would be good to have two wiremounts just-in-case, so make sure they are dj headphones. Next is microphones you can get one from the pawn shop but I would do it, because it has been spit on and who-knows-what is on it, “get it new” and make sure it come with a wire or you buy the cord with it, now check the connector, turntables, cd player, and mixer, but that not it because the machine don’t run unless you have gas.

The gas for this machine is “Music” and DJ software but music is your life source and your life blood. The problem is where do I get music? What type of software download do I need? and Lastly, How do I get my music from the source into the software?

Warning: These are some big questions and if you go straight to google or YouTube, you will listen to plenty of guys that will tell you thing that make you pay a lot of money, and will leave you frustrated with: lost money, a whole lot of unusable music downloads, and no place to put them, that’s if you get any music downloads at all, as to say music downloads that are ready to play from your software.

So this is part three, find a DJ friend or one in the club or place you would eventually like to DJ, and ask him or her to help you with the process of: How to get music? What software do you need? Or and Lastly How to actually download this music into you chosen software. You might have the ability to get them to help you but I used cash, not much but I promise you it will work and you will be happy that you went this route, because it’s a whole lot cheaper.

After you found this friend, you can follow youtube and all the book and it will go smoothly and you won’t lose your enthusiasm or passion and become frustrated, now let’s move on.

What is the best DJ software? Which DJ software is best for me? The answers to these questions rely on a few factors, one being your budget and next your level of understanding DJ software and controllers as a whole…Today that trend is digital setups for DJ’s, which you need both equipment and most importantly software to get you properly rolling. We highlight the canvas of it all, as we go through the best DJ software in the market today.(www.wirerealm.com/guides/best-dj-software)

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it is basically a computer program that emulates the traditional mixer, turntables and effects processing a DJ usually uses when scratching or mixing and matching songs. More specifically, for playing (aka ‘presenting’) media to an audience during performances or recording DJ mixes onto a track, whether it be a giant mixtape or merely a portion of the song dedicated to some scratching or beat matching. To keep it simple, though: DJ software is the result of advanced technology…software you run on your computer. (www.wirerealm.com/guides/best-dj-software)

How to choose your DJ software

Some are free, some… provide the trials so this helps you see if a specific software you’re looking at is worth (the) money. (Some) have (add-ons) specifically made for them, and some (all you need is) a mouse.

“The top two DJ software we list (Serato and Traktor Pro) are pretty stingy when it comes to compatible gear. That has both pros and cons, one giving you some security knowing that if you purchase the software as well as some gear that’s stated to be ‘compatible’ then you’re good to go and feeling warm and fuzzy inside. However, if you already have a DJ controller or want more of a broad-based DJ controller you should go with a different software such as VirtualDJ or Ableton. Although you are sacrificing some extra features with this option, so pick your poison.

Lastly, don’t forget that you’ll need a proper piece (or pieces in today’s age) of equipment to run alongside your software or you won’t be able to really use it. Read our best DJ controller article to help you with that if you’re still on the lookout.”(www.wirerealm.com/guides/best-dj-software)

“Our picks for the best DJ software

The following is our top picks for the best DJ software (we went with (5) of them). If you were in need of DJ apps for your smart device, be sure to read that guide as well. Below, the first few are what we recommend going with depending on your needs, but the others may pertain to you as well. We provide a link to their free trials, full versions, community, as well as some other resources helping explain what exactly they are (videos and what not). Let us know which one you go with!

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This is one our top picks for the best DJ software. How could we not? There was a close tie between this and Traktor Pro, but we’ll explain the few differences between each other. We’ve basically gone with Serato DJ because it is the standard among most of the top DJ’s we’ve spoken to. But we’ll be honest, it’s not easy choosing to list this first. The hottest debate nowadays is Serto vs. Traktor? Which program is better? Both have their pluses.

Serato DJ is most famous for their scratch emulation software which allows us to literally scratch any sound file we have on the computer. You can transform an mp3 file into a real record (you’ll need a controller to do it by hand). This makes traditional DJ’s mad. What happened to digging in the crates? Finding a rare record nobody has so only you can scratch it? Well, things are completely different now.

Serato also gives us numerous other features. These include vinyl and CD-J control, easy library management for switching between songs and matching beats, cues and loops to trigger and order, easy programming, add FX to songs and tracks, trigger some samples during tracks, cut, cue, loop, and more. The most impressive part of Serato is probably the interface as it is very aesthetically pleasing and organizes a lot of features into an easy package.

What’s nice is that Serato isn’t just limited to professionals only. It’s great for beginners (although it will definitely take some learning) and once you get the jist of it, you can use it pretty fresh out of the box. The more fancy features will take some familiarity, so it’ll be an investment once you’re ready to keep going.

What I found a bit disappointing was their vinyl scratching emulation software is sold separate. For more information on that you can buy Serato Scratch Live for a decent price.

There’s also a ton of compatible controllers to go along with Serato. But be careful with this; some are listed specifically to be for Serato while others are universal. The made-for-Serato gear works relatively seamlessly while other more broad DJ controllers can be a bit iffy. Some Serato controllers we’ve reviewed include the Akai AMX and Akai AFX controllers, but these are just to name a few. There are mixers, controllers, faders, and even more, so shop around for those if you plan on going big.

Here are some helpful Serato DJ resources:

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Native Instruments is a huge player in the innovation game with music equipment in general, and their Traktor Pro 2 is one of the best DJ software picks and is the other heavy hitter in the market. To us it’s like PC vs. Mac — everybody has their preference as they both work intended and offer us more features than we can count. What would separate the two is basically your budget; Traktor Pro runs a bit more expensive since it is only truly compatible with gear made specifically by Native Instruments, although some equipment will work decently. The universal gear isn’t as easy to use as it is with Serato. Native Instruments does this so you buy only their or brand’s they’ve approved. So not only will you have to spend money on the software itself, but the N.I. gear along with it to properly control it – gear you already have probably won’t work. They have quite a lot of gear available, too, so if your budget is up there you can get pretty crazy with it.

The main features of Traktor Pro 2 include 4-deck control, looping and cues, over 30 built-in effects, on-the-fly remixing and re-editing of tracks, and easy browsing of your sounds and tracks. These are pretty close to Serato so when it comes to differences there aren’t much besides a few dollars in price and ready-made controllers for each.

NI’s scratch emulation software is also sold separately, which is where they get you in terms of price. Traktor Pro 2 is around $100 retail, but their scratch software is sold separately which starts at five bills. Check their Traktor Scratch Pro 2 pricing for more details and reviews (comes with an audio interface too).

Traktor Pro 2 resources:

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Full Versions | Free Download

Here’s another popular pick as the best DJ software in the market, albeit not as widespread as Traktor or Serato. This is recommended for those who want more of a broad software that will work pretty well with most standard USB or MIDI DJ controllers. It’s not as monopoly based when it comes to gear and software integration which is why we sometimes like this over the expensive Serato and Traktor choices.

Here are some standout features of VirtualDJ: Compatible with Mac and PC, song mixing, FX application, play two or more tracks at the same time, change speed, cross-fade, cues and more. Standard features here but it’s very solid and compatible with most DJ equipment. This is also recommended for beginners who will be doing less daunting shows and want simplicity. Here’s a short video explaining it.

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Full Version | Free Trial

This is made the same company as FL Studio as we saw their program make an appearance in our best digital audio workstation article. Image-Line is very reliable when it comes to gear and software so we’re confident when using this knowing it’s reliable and fully functional, it just isn’t a common software you’ll see talked about in the online DJ community.

Deckadance gives us some decent features here: Up to four deck control, VST compatible, MIDI control, smart knobs (link interface targets to one particular knob), FX chaining, low/mid/high band control and customize the interface. What’s most impressive is the fact that it can be either a standalone program and can be linked as a VSTi in your DAW of choice. You can also combine it with any digital vinyl software, such as Serato or VirtualDJ. It’s pretty cheap as compared to other DJ software out there as well.

Here’s a video introduction of Deckadance to see a little more of it.

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This one is for you if you’re looking for the best free DJ software. Mixxx is open-source, so we’ve got some creative minds collaborating together to work on improvements and additional features. The lack of price gives us a “why not?” mind-state, so if you have the time, give it a go to see if it’s right for you. Here are some core features of Mixxx: Crossfading with auto DJ, most sound format compatible, waveform displays and summaries, Mac and PC compatible, BPM detection, vinyl emulation, loops and cues, adjustable EQ, and a lot more. Mixxx is something to take a look at it not only because it’s free but due to the power it holds in terms of overall features. This is definitely a sleep in the “best dj mixer” talk.

Here’s a cool little video overview of Mixxx.”(www.wirerealm.com/guides/best-dj-software)

Continue on week 3.5 for more option on “Choosing Your Digital D.J.Software” and Choose Wisely!!!!

Do Your Want To Be A D.J. A Weekly Series: Week Two

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Week 2: Researching and Picking Out DJ Equipment


Waking Up today  I felt very passionate about my desire to be a DJ, because of that Day One article, so I will take that enthusiasm to my next step which is researching for my DJ equipment. The article from Day One was really helpful, with what to look for in equipment, it said “Be Economical” so with that idea in mind. let’s get on some web sites and look for product.


The first site I’m going to go is google, I typed into my search “what is good equipment for beginners DJ’s?”   Wow after two hours on line this article had everything I was looking for, with Information and pictures.  

The Best DJ Controller for Beginners List

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Pioneer DDJ-SB2

The Pioneer DDJ-SB2 is the company’s entry level pro DJ controller. Not only is it beginner friendly, it’s good to go for shows. As you get used to the device you’ll quickly find out that it’s fully loaded for it’s price. I mean it has four decks for queuing tracks. This is the only controller on the list that will give you access to this advanced skill-set. It has extremely good sound quality and an intuitive layout. Beginners who learn to use to it’s limits will be able to use any controller on the market. It’s robust and definitely built to last. Comes with a sound card and features that blow everything else on this list out of the water.

Detailed Review of the Pioneer DDJ-SB2.

Numark Mixtrack 3

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DJs need to give themselves freedom to explore their trade. This piece of gear is anything but restrictive in that sense. This controller lets you experiment and manipulate music like a pro. The Numark Mixtrack 3 is an amazing DJ Controller enough features to hone your trade. For the price, the DJ controller is a great bargain. It’s biggest draw are the large faders on each deck. They allow for some real accuracy that most kits don’t have. This precision will go a long way in teaching you how to find the perfect balance.

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Hercules DJControl Compact Controller

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This is one of the most cost efficient controllers on the list. Intended for people who are on the fence and just want to dip their feet in before fully investing in equipment. This has all the baseline features that are fundamental in more expensive gear and more than covers the basics of DJing. Basically if you need to learn something, it will be one this controller. Plus at the cost it’s very good for figuring out if DJing is for you in the first place.  This will definitely take you to an intermediate user level and get you going. One major bonus is the full version of the software comes with this so there are no other fees if you want to dive in a bit more.


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Numark Party Mix

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All in all this is a very good entry into DJing for youngsters and hobbyists. The software is extremely easy to use. It has more settings and features to learn than the Hercules mentioned above and it’s perfect for mixing small parties and comes with a built in light show. The biggest feature is the soundcard, you can hook this up to an RCA speaker output without additional gear.

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Gemini SLATE 2-Channel Serato Dj Intro Controller

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This is the best mid range controller for beginners. It’s a two deck system with a full set of features. The controller is a high quality build with great controls like extremely sensitive capacitive jog wheels. The device is portable and can take you from beginner to running a live show without any problems. An onboard soundcard means you don’t need to make that extra purchase to push forward your DJing career. One noticeable difference is Gemini likes to put action pads above the jog wheels. It takes a little bit to get used to if you’re used to alternative layouts.

These are my top picks for someone who would be interested in getting started with an entry level controller. I chose these more for people who are looking to dabble to see if the hobby is a fit for them. As such the price points are low because most of these are a beginner dj controller. That said most of these controllers have more features than other similarly priced models and stand above in quality and reviews. If you’re willing to pay for the best and want to start with the top of the line, definitely check out this DDJ SR review. Whether you start at the high or low end. You want to be able to explore and grow your skills without needing to upgrade and find something that works within your budget. With these controllers you won’t ever feel restrained and they’ll take you far.(http://fractalbeat.com/best-dj-controller-for-beginners)

Now after carefully reading and comparison of all the equipment and looking at my budget, thinking “be economical” I chose DJ2GO2, Numark because I felt it offered me a lot of thing that i am looking for, Such as: compact size, ready to go right out of the box, it’s a great chose for beginners, and it was 79.00 dollars a great price for my budget.  



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The DJ2GO2 is a portable, pocket-sized DJ controller that goes with you everywhere. It’s equipped with a built-in sound card and Serato DJ intro (Serato DJ upgrade ready), which makes this the smallest DJ controller around. It fits on top of your laptop so you’re ready for action in no time, without taking up any unnecessary space. It’s perfect for using for small gigs, prepping your gigs, and a great backup for those “just in case” moments. There are endless possibilities, but most importantly, you can go anywhere with DJ2GO2.


All in all this is a very good entry into DJing for youngsters and hobbiest

Its also known as “The Numark Party Mix”  it’s great for beginners, youth, and hobbyist.  It’s also great for a person that wants to rock the party because it’s box,  just can hook up to a speaker system and you can party like the big boys. Lately it comes with a partial download of software however if your like, you can buy the full version, so you move-on to the bigger connectors if you like and you won’t have to buy any new software. Plus its small enough to go on my laptop and will fit in my laptop bag when going from party to party.

Other thing I will purchase with my with my portable connector is a set of headphones, and speakers maybe Numark 508’s?  

Buying My Products

When i purchase things over the price of twenty-five dollars, I go online because most of the time it’s cheaper, but you make the chose you need to get the products you want.   So my chose is big three Amazon, Walmart, and Best Buy, on-line of course.  Looking around their websites to see who has it, which has the better price and shipping and I can order my products.  Before ordering remember to first I check the comment section as I do with Amazon, to see how its rated, what are the comments about, and if there are any downsides to any of the products. Wow all comments were positive only a few negative and they were about software issues like(availability), and the other was mad that the seller did not inform him he would need one additional cord. So I’m ready to put it in the cart, Wow” “Out Of Stock!!!” On to Walmart, “YES” but they don’t have the microphone cord I need, it’s a “Cable Matters XLR Cable” so i will check amazon for the cord and maybe pick-up the headphones there too. After that maybe check around for those speakers!!!

All three thing on there way, when they arrive we will have Week three, Week Three: Unwrapping, Week Three will be: Getting a DJ Friend and Choosing Digital D.J. Software,  Week 3.5 Cont. Choosing Digital D.J. Software, and Week Four and Five (it’s such a big undertaking, IT TAKES TWO WEEK, so to read for understand!!!) They will be titled: Going Getting Music it’s not just a field trip to the Public Library, to set up my music library.  Keep The Passion and Enthusiasm!!!     

The Boy and The Wise Man (Safe Teen Dating After Fallout Of The Sexual Harassment and #METOO Movement)

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On January first an American boy was in non-descriptive mall in a favorite town and saw a girl. He smiled at her and she smiled back, then he walked away following his mom, they we leaving for home.  As his mom is driving out of the parking lot, he sees her again as he perceives her also going home and he smiles again.  Traveling down the highway,  he ask his mom, “Mom? How do you know if someone likes you… um…if you like them?” She smiles and says; “Wow, my babies growing-up.” Then she answered him, with a question: What’s her name, he answered her, I don’t know. Then mom asked another question “Who is she?” He finally answered: Mom, I don’t know, I saw her in the mall and she smiled at me and then when we just left the mall, I looked into a car and saw her smiling at me again. His Mother said “Awww,  “Well when we get home you can call your father I think he can help you with this.” “Then after you and him talk, then if you have any more questions, I will try to clear them up.”  Feeling comfortable, he sat back in his seat quietly formulating questions he would ask his father.

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An hour later they arrived home and Mom began cooking dinner as John finished his homework.  When dinner was ready his mom called him to the table and they continued to talk about his “unknown friend.”  After a while the boy noticed the clock and said “Mom”, “ its ten o’clock and we talked so much that I can’t talk to Dad until tomorrow.” he continued “but It’s OK because talking with you was great.”

As he prepared for bed he continued to think about “her” the girl in the mall, he also thought about the conversation he was having with his mother about her, Turned on his television as he always does, not realizing the news was on as he smiling, as he fell asleep.

The television was on CNN as they had a special exclusive about the sexual harassment and the “ME TOO” Movement.   His dreaming was invaded by the news and images of “her,”  all mango-ed together.

As the dream began, he was at the mall feel the sweetness of seeing her again, then she disappeared and the dream switched to a man in a huge tower,  and he was walking toward the tower and the man and he went up to the man and asked the man “where am I?” and who are you?”

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The man said “you are in the village of Questions and I am “The Wish Man Of The Tower,” “You can ask me any question and I will answer honestly and accurately.”  So the boy asked the same questions he asked his mother, How do you know when a person you likes, likes you? And The Wise man answered: To answer that question I need more information. So then the boy told of the story of the girl at the mall looking at him and how they seemed to connect, and when he and her were leaving the mall in their separate cars, how she smiled when her car passed him and his Mom’s car.  The Wise man said “there are two ways I could this question, and here they are: You could tell by the way she smiled at you that she likes you or you can also tell how she seemed to look for you, then smile at you in the car, that she likes you.”

“The boy continued to ask another question, I have read in a couple of books,  If you like someone that you don’t know, you could ask friends about them, or follow them to places that they frequent and if you encounter them, walk up to them and tell them how you feel and that you like them and then ask her to go to a movie or something. The Wise Man answered with a question: “Where did you read this information?” The Boy answered “I got twi books called “how to be gentlemen” and “how to date a woman”. The Wise Man answered “throw those books away because they are about staking, condescending behavior, sexual harassment. Today’s women is different and after 2017 relationships require a lot more step than the engagement tool or encounters of the past.  Sit down and allow me to explain.

“Relationships have changed, in the era of sexual harassment and Me Too, because years ago a man could leave work and meetup with women and “boys could be boys” however,  It seem like you might need a lawyer to answer question about dating today or to say in terms “Female and Male Communication and Interaction”  but let me try to tackle it. The boy answered: “What? Female.. What?” The Wise Man said The FMCI (Female and Male Communication and Interaction) Let me explain after the 2017 relationship have to become a legalized contract with interaction clause. Because Men have been said to have acted so badly toward women and to avoid, mens losing all their stuff, future, career, lifestyle or livelihood,  men have to have all of their dating and female interactions worked out as a contract and video taped, to avoid any misinformation and confusion.

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The Boy asked, “Why?….What Happened?”  “Sexual Harassment and Me Too!!! Cried the Wish Man.”  I told you!!! Changed everything, after the sexual harrisment and metoo problem: taking a women out, requires many new things like: a lot of respect, distance, asking questions and maybe some disclosure forms. 

The disclosure form should include: the distance between individuals, or touching clause, and two or more consent form.  The touching clause, both  individuals agree to: the certain way to touch, certain place or places on your body to touch, and for how long to touch.” “Also” a no means no clause” to be signed in the presents of legal counsel and any and all interactions video digital or video taped.  Lastly  signing of a long term agreement that neither person will bring either person up on charges or try to destroy them in the newspaper, talk shows, social media or any future communication entity.”


The boy way shocked as said: “why is it so hard to have a relationship, has  it always been this way? ”  The Wise Man answered “I Told You!!!” “ever since sexual harassment in 2017 and The Me Too Movement” it changed” He went on to say Me Too – has become a viral hashtag, and spread to Facebook and Instagram as well as other social media outlets.

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 The Wise Man Continues “After the actions of one person, resorted in the response of the other person: That is the famious man considered acting badly and the woman responded by taking everything from said men, their: livelihood, jobs careers, and reputation, in one fail swoop.  It happened quickly A group of women charged them with sexually harassed that happened 20, 30, or even 40 years ago, and they can’t say anything because the victim are Right and They are Wrong, and BAM!!! Your job gone and your livelihood with it. One day your on top the next day your broke and can’t find anything or anyone to help you!!!”  


The Boy asked “How? Is this legal?” The Wise Man end his rant by saying: “This has nothing to do with legal, it’s moral, and if you are a moral problem for a company,organization or government entity,  You Are Out!!!”  “Even if it didn’t happen on company time or company property.”  Now listen and remember all that I told you and follow  all these legal steps to  insure you’re covered legally If and when go out with women, because the life, career, and reputation you save might be your own!!!


The boy asked in desperation, “is there any other way that I can do something so that this curse will not befalling me? The Wise Man said: “No there is no other way, if you don’t follow my advice, there will be a day that you appear on any award show, any newspaper, or any position of celebrity, there will be a group of women that you don’t remember, may have never seen or don’t know, these avengers will come for you and will kill your life,career, and reputation.” The Boy answered with “GOOD LUCK!!!”   

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Do You Want To Be A D.J? A Weekly Series: Week One


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Have you ever had an Epiphany watching a movie or a person doing something, and say to yourself, “Wow I’ve always wanted to do that.” I’m a person with a never ending desire  and I always have something in my idea cannon that i want to try, “Just Once.” Last month it was going back to school and trying law, and weeks before that it was getting a piccolo and learning how to play it, with this daily and monthly desire to learn and do something new, I also have have life long dreams that come to mind often. These are the dreams that I try to live “out loud,” by finding people and placing people in my life, that do this thing and indirectly asking questions about the job or hobby and picking up tip from them to see if I like to learn to do it somewhere in the future.   One of these ideas is not actually becoming a D.J. but to get a d.j. Set up and get out the music and the songs that are trapped in my head, like when I hear a new song and say: “its missing something” or I say to friends, I went on “Youtube last night” and listen to old songs all night, and really enjoyed myself,””but I wish I could make my own song.”  So today I’m going to do it, and I’m going to take you along with me in my quest: To learn to learn to be a D.J. and maybe as Jack Black said in one of his “stand up” performances, “Come up with the perfect song.”     

Day One:

On “Amazon.com” and looking at equipment to see what I need to buy, Looking at all the controllers, speakers, lights, amplifiers,microphones, stands, boxes, ect I found myself overwhelmed, I quickly realized that I had no Idea what I’m looking for or how this stuff worked.  So I “Googled” How to be a D.J. for beginners: found the web site:  

How To Be A D.J.

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This blog includes pictures and everything, reading through it, it was a cornucopia of information that included a one word quiz after every chapter. The picture explained the illustrations and the quiz question kept you focused to reading more, I learned a lot about the career of D.J. ING from this site  but moreover I learned that I need to have a home studio and later I maybe I can use it for production, but don’t let me get too far ahead of myself. The site included a explained of analog and digital startups and the choice of equipment you will need to purchase. The great thing about the author he also suggested that you don’t buy new, he said: “buy your decks used and your mixer new.” The first chapter in the blog is:  

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Gathering Equipment:

Start with the basics. Being a DJ requires you to do a lot more than just play songs. Learning to structure a set, mix on the fly, and get a crowd moving all starts with your deck. Later on, you can invest in bigger speakers, a monitor, a MIDI controller, an audio interface, mics, and various plugins, depending on your ambitions for playing out, but a bare-bones basic DJ setup needs to include the following:

    • Two turntables or two CD players (or more, optionally)
    • 2-channel mixer
    • Headphones
    • Speakers
    • Mixing software (optional)                                                        (/www.wikihow.com/Be-a-DJ)

Other areas the author included on the blog are: deciding to go analog or digital, here’s where, as I told you earlier, that they explain the advantages and disadvantage of both areas Analog and Digital setups .

  • Analog setups will allow you to DJ in the most traditional way, learning the skills the way they were pioneered: scratching a stylus against vinyl. This will require you to collect a sizable collection of vinyl records to play, which can be somewhat expensive.
  • Digital set-ups allow you to be extremely mobile, and the learning curve will be much smaller when you’re working with a digital set-up. Learning to beatmatch and transition, for example, will be much easier with a BPM counter and a software system.(/www.wikihow.com/Be-a-DJ)

The author take you through the entire process of buying equipment and they are so helpful that in chapter four he suggest:”Be economical. Don’t invest in top-dollar equipment right away. Most of your money should be spent on turntables and a mixer. Forget the other stuff for now. And spend wisely — buy your decks used and your mixer new.”    

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More areas in the blog are: Know what you need at your gig, this is where he helps you become economical and practical so you don’t carry too much equipment with you, you know what the equipment the venue has and you can can focus on the job you were hired for”playing the music.”

But In Chapter seven I liked that the author didn’t stops with equipment and responsibilities of the D,J. in goes right to the heart of the matter, The music. They suggest:                                                                                                    Image result for gathering music and cds 

That you Build a big collection of music. You know what else you need? Music. And you don’t want crappy, third-rate mp3 download versions of those songs either. To be a legit DJ, you’ll at least eventually have to pay for the music you get. For now, work with what you have, but know that it will be an expense later on in the game. You need to be a music expert. Hit up your friends and consult the charts, YouTube channels of record companies and websites catering especially to DJs such as Beatport. Here’s a list of genres to explore:

  • House
  • Trance
  • Techno
  • Electro
  • Glitch
  • Dark Alternative
  • Progressive
  • Breakbeat
  • Hardstyle
  • Hardcore
  • Downtempo
  • Jungle
  • Drum and Bass
  • Dubstep
  • Hip-Hop

This was a great article to start off my DJ career with and it taught me a lot,  Moreover the most prominent point the article made. and made a impression is that you have to be Professional and have FUN:

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Be professional. Show up to your events on-time and fully prepared. Give each gig your best effort. Have fun with the crowd, but keep your interactions professional and respectful, since you never know who’s watching.

  • Straight up, the DJ world is full of scumbags. You want to be that good apple that isn’t a part of the bunch. If you’re not professional, there are a zillion other guys and gals out there chomping at the bit to take your spot.

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Have fun. Imagine going to a show (or maybe you already have been witness to this) and seeing a DJ that’s busy pushing buttons like he’d rather be hauling rocks. It’s terrible. Watching a DJ that doesn’t even like their own music is practically worse than a three-piece polka band with earplugs. So make it clear that you’re enjoying yourself and the crowd will follow suit.

  • You’re totally allowed to go a bit crazy. The more you feel it, the more your inclinations will be spot on. The more spot on you are, the more the crowd wants you back.

My first day  was amazing and my choice of articles was awesome, because I found the blog of all blog.  The author had every scenario, every pitfall and help for growth all wrapped up in one article.   Also as article go, some will not have enough information and so your passion right out the door. However this article, didn’t stop my passion to become a a DJ, they only extended my enthusiasm. Because they were so helpful,  I really enjoyed the article, and to keep up with this good feeling.  Day two,  I will talk about researching new equipment on Amazon.com, Walmart and Craigslist looking for my New DJ equipment, So continue to follow me on day two!!!