“Get Your Hand Out My Pocket!!!”: Companies Procurement And The Use Of Your Information/Data

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New technology is so exciting, with all the great commercials, telling you about how to work its products and their different uses. I seem like every week companies are coming out with something, that you’ve got to have. The only issue is for me, being a conspiracy theories is “what’s the catch?” Today “the catch” is information storage or data, and how companies are getting your datas through their new personal assistant products. The problem is that, makers of personal assistant companies, hide the procurement tool in these produces, in the most unusually strangest, and smallest places, like with these voice commanded products, that is, in the reception of information or the artificial intelligence.

The companies I’m referring to, is the highest grossing companies, which are Google, Apple, Hp, and Now Amazon, they are in the business of search for any and all your information. Google has two area’s: its informational drop boxes in their searches took and their google home. All the other are through their personal assistant product, such as: Google, Cortana, Siri, and soon to be a big player, Alexia: they are in a race to become the biggest procurement of information organization on earth. So they can sell all your information and idiosyncrasies to the highest bidder, right from under your noses. Here’s a brief explanation of the three biggest company personal assistant products:
1. Siri:

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This VPA has been developed and implemented by Apple primarily for all of the iPhone devices. It has also recently been deployed on the Apple TV and Apple Watch as well. It can engage the end user in meaningful conversations with regards to helping the end user decide upon what the next course of action should be. Its greatest strength is that through its Artificial Intelligence algorithms, it can understand human language at a deep level. Its main drawback is that it cannot interoperate with other mobile apps on the iPhone. The replacement for Siri is known as “Viv,” and it is purported that it will be able to answer very complex questions which are posed to it by the end user.

2. Google Now:

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This VPA has been designed specifically for the Android Operating System and is meant to work primarily on the Samsung wireless devices. It is deemed to be more sophisticated than Siri regarding the robustness of the mathematical algorithms which are used. For example, it can harvest through your EMail inbox and your Web Browsing history to help the end user in more complex situations. It also keeps detail about your personal information and data, and to a certain degree, it can even communicate with other mobile apps which also reside on the Samsung wireless devices. In this regard, its higher level of sophistication is also deemed to be its greatest disadvantage, as many end users have complained that it violates their privacy rights.
2. Microsoft Cortana:

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This VPA has been created not only for the Windows 10 Operating System but also for the Windows Mobile devices as well. However, interestingly enough, it can also to a certain degree even function on the iOS and Android Operating Systems as well. Cortana has been designed more to interact with the personal life of the end user, by setting up reminders and other types of calendar appointments, as well as answering general kinds of questions. Its greatest strengths are that it can interoperate quite effectively with other Windows-based mobile apps, and can even function with Skype as well. However, its greatest weakness is that it is much less sophisticated that Siri or Google Now, and in fact, is the least used feature on the Windows 10 Operating System.

Most of us learn about these product from the commercials saying, “that they are here to assist and make your life easier.” By using peripherals bluetooth capable wireless product like: bulb, plugs, speakers,televisions, roomba (robot vacuum-cleaner, and an assortment of other things. These assistance can make your life simpler and also tell you: the weather, the score of sports, keep you up with your schedule, turn channels, record movies, pick songs, and sooth you when can’t sleep. However these products is worse than “a nosy neighbor” and “a stoker,” it’s “all in your business” and “it’s keeping tabs on you.” Because they are always listening:

Always Listening:

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Americans have grown inured to the idea that their computers are always tracking them. Search for a kitchen faucet online and faucet ads seem to appear on every Website you visit for days.
But could there come a day when talking about buying a faucet in the kitchen could be overheard by your TV in the living room, changing the types of commercials that show up when you’re watching your favorite program the next night?
That’s the type of scenario the group would like to get ahead of, while the list of voice control devices is still short. Today, the most widely-deployed are Apple’s Siri, Google’s OK, Amazon’s Echo and Fire TV, and some Samsung Smart TVs.
They represent “an enormous sea change to our relationship with the computer. And this is where privacy comes into the mix,” said Kelly Fitzsimmons, co-founder of Custom Realty Services, a virtual reality production company and also a part of the working group.
The aim isn’t to shut voice control down but to nudge it in the right directions. “We don’t want to kill the innovation cycle, but I care about whether my TV is listening to me,” said Joyce Brocaglia of Alta Associates, an executive cybersecurity search firm that helped launch the group.(www.usatoday.com)
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Whilst it is yet to have happened, or to have been allowed by any of the big tech companies, lawyers or the police could potentially subpoena sensitive information. This is, of course, if law enforcement gets their way.
If they do, they’ll have the key to a huge amount of information, Apple, Amazon and Google being amongst a growing list of companies that keeps an archive of commands.
The problem, however, goes beyond the mere use of digital assistants. As the use of integrated devices and smart homes increases, more and more devices will have the ability to store potentially sensitive information. A Smart TV, for example could easily have the capability of storing recorded information. Whilst this would seemingly be primed towards targeted ads, there is again the possibility that sensitive information could be stored unbeknownst to its users.

But The Companies Will Use The Phrase “It Keeps You Safe” OK, But At What Price?

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The obvious advice is easy to uphold, and is one that most people will already be practicing. Don’t say sensitive information, like passwords or credit cards details, out loud. It’s likely to become increasingly difficult to know who (or what’s) listening within your own home.
Meanwhile, whilst operating systems such as iOS do let you manage data collection by changing privacy settings, the only option the Amazon Echo gives you is to unplug the device when not in use. It’s important, therefore, to look at your privacy settings, whatever the device.
So aside from telling us tomorrow’s weather, where the best restaurants are, and the occasional bad joke, digital assistants do pose some real risks to our cybersecurity.
Whilst the technology undoubtedly makes us more seamlessly connected to our tech devices, in turn making our lives easier, it’s important to always take into account the issue of privacy; an issue that tech is increasingly making more tenuous within our own homes, for better or for worse.(www.pandasecurity.com)

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Despite the advantages that a Virtual Personal Assistant brings to an end user, or even for a business or a corporation, there are serious Security issues that are associated with them. Although the advent of a VPA is not a totally new concept, its huge demand and growth into the Smartphone is still being embraced.
This means that the assessing the security risks and threats which are posed to the different VPA applications are still being ascertained, and its magnitude of impact is still being quantified.
One of the first Security issues that comes to mind is that of privacy. For example, as we communicate with either Siri or Cortana, the dialogue can be still be considered as one sided.
This simply means that it is the end user who is engaging in most of the dialogue, and it is the Virtual Personal Assistant who is merely responding with the needed answers to the queries which are being asked of it.
However, it is very important to keep in mind at this point that it is not the mobile app upon which the VPA resides on which is answering to you -rather your conversations and queries are being transmitted back to the corporate headquarters of either Apple, Google, or Microsoft. In turn, it is the servers there which are feeding the answers back to the mobile app which is communicating with you.
So, the question remains is how secure these lines of communications between the mobile app and the transmissions sent back to the corporate headquarters and vice versa are? True, these companies may merely state that the lines of communications are indeed secure, but are they really?
Up to this point, there have been no known studies which have been conducted to examine the depth of Security of these particular lines of communications.
It is quite possible that they are totally unencrypted, and as a result, they could be a prime target for an Eavesdropping Attack by a Cyber attacker. It is also equally important to note that these servers may not necessarily reside exclusively here in the United States, where there is some legal protection afforded to citizens of wiretapping by the Federal Government or any other private third party.
These servers are very likely housed in those countries (given the fact that Google, Microsoft, and Apple are all multinational companies) where these protective mechanisms are not in place.
So, for example, although you might be having a conversation with Siri or Cortana here in the United States, there is a good chance that those conversations are then being transmitted back to the servers which reside in a country like Russia or China. As a result, there is a much higher probability that your conversations could very well be wiretapped, and being listed into.
Because of this, a virtual audit trail of your conversations is literally being built, in a manner similar to that of enabling cookies on your Web browser. To make Security matters even more complex, the conversations that you are having with either Siri or Cortana are actually being recorded and stored.
Apple has a retention policy of at least 18 months, the timeframe for Microsoft and Google have not yet been disclosed to the public. As a result, these stored conversations could be “prey” for the Cyber attacker.(infosecinstitute.com)

In Conclusion:

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Digital personal assistants in concept are fun, they have many uses and can help you with day to day chores to small things like turning on a light or changing the channels. However they are also termed as “Intelligent Virtual Assistants” because they actually use some sort of Artificial Intelligence (AI) embedded deep within them to create a robust, timely, and equally important, an accurate response to the end user’s particular query.
To be truly effective to the end user, these Virtual Personal Assistants try to get to “know” you as much as possible. To do this, they need to learn more about your particular habits and try to extrapolate and predict future queries.
In this regard, the use of Machine Learning as well as Neural Network technology has also been embedded into these mobile app packages.
It is widely expected that the demand for and the growth of Virtual Personal Assistants will only proliferate into the future (the exact trends and predictions for VPAs will be examined in a future article).
Part of the reason for this explosion are the heavy investments which are being made into them from the leading IT vendors, to bring their customers. a true, all-encompassing life experience when it comes to using the VPA for just about any task related matter at hand.
Despite the many advantages that a VPA brings to the table, there are also inherent Security risks associated with them as well, as it was reviewed in the last part of this article. These include unsecured lines of communications and the recording of conversations by the Vendor who developed the VPA. Which will leave the owner always always feeling compromised and in some cases spied on. Remember no matter what the advantages to new technology:Question Everything!!!


Silence Is Golden: The Health Benefits Of True Silence

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Silence is golden, was always said by adults when I was a child, I think they would said that, because they wanted all the kids to be silent. Today as I get older I have come to the conclusion that it’s very true, However today there are very few places that you can go and find actual silent. The type of silence that you can hear, that has no movement, still silence.   Silence is the stillness of everything not just the quietness, because if something is moving it makes noise, in the process of it working or when it stops working.   Quietness is levels of quiet and it has stages from: absolutely quiet, very quiet, to quiet, like in the library people’s mouths might be quiet, but not feet, or computers.  So to actually finding quietness you have to have stillness, because in the most quiet place even your movement and body functions is noise: like breathing, heartbeat, muscle movement, yawing, and even sleeping.
Today no matter where you are you can hear impediments to silence, from everywhere, television, computers, phones, technology, even with headphones, they can’t silence the world around you, they may reduce the noise by the process of setting tones high enough to block the noise so you can have the Idea of less noise.  Because We are so bombarded by sounds and most of us don’t realize how much we enjoy silence until we are in it. Our body rest and we fall asleep, filling the silence with that noise of our sleeping.                            Image result for noise pollution

In our  World, Noise is unavoidable, and being surrounded by noise isn’t always a problem. However, in our modern society, disturbing and excessive noise has become such an issue that researchers have given it a label: Noise pollution. According to researchers, noise pollution can have the following impacts.

  • Long-term daily exposure to noise levels above 65 dB (the volume of noise heard when living near a busy road) can trigger increases in blood pressure, heart rate, and vasoconstriction. These all have negative impacts on the cardiovascular system.
  • In schools and workplaces, noise pollution impairs task performance. It increases errors and decreases motivation, reading attention, problem solving, and memory.
  • Noise levels above 80 dB (the volume of garbage disposals and blenders) are associated with an increase in aggression and a decrease in behaviors that are helpful to others. Researchers posit that this may help explain some of the violence and cruelty in congested, noisy urban environments.
  • Cognitive development and reading achievement are diminished in children who reside in noisy homes.

As you can see, being surrounded by too much noise isn’t just an annoyance. It’s actually a threat to our health and well-being.


The obvious antidote to noise is silence. Whether you are surrounded by noise pollution or just hear commonplace sounds (dings and buzzes made by cell phones, background music playing at the grocery store, honks from cars driven by frustrated drivers, etc.), you would benefit from a little silence.

Times of silence provide us with opportunities to regroup mentally and physically. The limited sensory input of silence gives the attention centers in our brains time to restore themselves. It also lets our minds wander and promotes daydreaming. Though these activities seem wasteful, they actually help us with problem solving, empathy, and creativity (source). Periods of silence situated between noisy periods restore our physical bodies by decreasing blood pressure and heart rate (source).

Here Are Four Scientific Benefits Of Silence:

Silence Builds The Brain                              

According to Duke University regenerative biologist Imke Kirste, silence can be instrumental in brain growth. In 2013, Kirste studied the effects of different sounds on the brains of mice. Her experiment exposed the mice to music, baby mouse calls, white noise, and silence. Although the silence was intended to be an experimental control, she accidentally discovered that it can have a profound impact on neurological functionality. Kirste found that two hours of silence per day prompted cell development in the hippocampus, which regulates memory and the five senses. Neurogenesis, she reasoned, could be an adaptive response to quiet. Although the growth of new brain cells isn’t always healthy, the ones produced in times of silence were proven to be beneficial. As Kirste explained,“We saw that silence is really helping the new generated cells to differentiate into neurons, and integrate into the system.”

Silence Facilitates Reflection

We also need silent moments in order to reflect on the world, ourselves, and the connection between the two. When you are actively absorbing information, performing a task, or working toward a goal, your energy is focused in an external direction. We need silence in order to redirect our attention to our inner workings and personal growth. As Herman Melville once wrote, “All profound things and emotions of things are preceded and attended by silence.”

Silence Helps Us Let Go Of Stress

Can you remember a time when, even though nothing alarming actually happened, you found yourself growing more and more tightly wound throughout the day? Chances are, your body was reacting to the amount of noise around you. Noise activates our stress hormones in the same way that a worrisome event or impending fear might. One study, for example, found that children living near the Munich airport had significantly higher blood pressure than children in quieter neighborhoods, putting them at risk for heart problems later in life. Stress has a profound impact on our physical, mental, and emotional health – and most of us are in real danger from it.

Silence Allows The Brain To Process Information

Even when the brain is in a resting mode, it is still working at a mile a minute. When we are sleeping, for example, our brains are constructing elaborate dreams and, of course, processing all of the facts and emotions that get thrown at us throughout the workday. For this reason, it is important to give our brains a moment free from stimulation. Your brain needs time and space in order to integrate internal and external information effectively. (http://iheartintelligence.com)

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Get focused

Silence and meditation helps you control what thoughts you listen to. “We often just react to every thought we have and that’s when chaos can happen.” A few minutes of silence every day can help counter this and teach you to sort through unnecessary thoughts.

Appreciate what you have

“We’re addicted to being on Facebook,” she says. “We end up comparing ourselves to other people all the time. If you see photos of people having a lovely time and you’re not having a lovely time it can be quite belittling. Taking a break from Facebook helps you realise what you do have.” Turning off technology and being quiet can help you focus internally.

Get in touch with your body

“You can hold tension in your body without even realising it,” says Dr Spark. “By taking a moment to tune into it we notice our breathing and implement slow, regular breathing we can really help to ourselves to calm down.” Exercises in which you contract muscles can also help you get in touch with your body and calm yourself.

Give your subconscious time to work

“Sometimes if you go away from work a little bit, it puts things in perspective,” she says, adding that your subconscious can often unravel questions whilst you’re thinking about something else. “Even if it’s only for a few minutes a day – if you’re feeling overwhelmed at work, lock yourself in the toilet or find somewhere quiet and just take your mind and your tension to your belly button, your centre of gravity. Concentrate on breathing slowly. It helps you refocus when you’re finished.”(telegraph.co.uk)

Lastly: Even incredibly busy people can cultivate periods of sustained quiet time. Here are four practical ideas:                                     

1) Punctuate meetings with five minutes of quiet time. If you’re able to close the office door, retreat to a park bench, or find another quiet hideaway, it’s possible to hit reset by engaging in a silent practice of meditation or reflection.

2) Take a silent afternoon in nature. You need not be a rugged outdoors type to ditch the phone and go for a simple two-or-three-hour jaunt in nature. In our own experience and those of many of our clients, immersion in nature can be the clearest option for improving creative thinking capacities. Henry David Thoreau went to the woods for a reason.

3) Go on a media fast. Turn off your email for several hours or even a full day, or try “fasting” from news and entertainment. While there may still be plenty of noise around—family, conversation, city sounds—you can enjoy real benefits by resting the parts of your mind associated with unending work obligations and tracking social media or current events.

4) Take the plunge and try a meditation retreat:  Even a short retreat is arguably the most straightforward way to turn toward deeper listening and awaken intuition. The journalist Andrew Sullivan recently described his experience at a silent retreat as “the ultimate detox.” As he put it: “My breathing slowed. My brain settled…It was if my brain were moving away from the abstract and the distant toward the tangible and the near.”   (hbr.org)

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Recent studies are showing that taking time for silence restores the nervous system, helps sustain energy, and conditions our minds to be more adaptive and responsive to the complex environments in which so many of us now live, work, and lead. Duke Medical School’s Imke Kirste recently found that silence is associated with the development of new cells in the hippocampus, the key brain region associated with learning and memory. Physician Luciano Bernardi found that two-minutes of silence inserted between musical pieces proved more stabilizing to cardiovascular and respiratory systems than even the music categorized as “relaxing.” And a 2013 study in the Journal of Environmental Psychology, based on a survey of 43,000 workers, concluded that the disadvantages of noise and distraction associated with open office plans outweighed anticipated, but still unproven, benefits like increasing morale and productivity boosts from unplanned interactions.(hbr.org)

But cultivating silence isn’t just about getting respite from the distractions of office chatter or tweets.  Real sustained silence, the kind that facilitates clear and creative thinking, quiets inner chatter as well as outer. Enjoy some silence today.   


Is Black Friday The Actual Time To Find A Deal?: A Small Critique Of The Big Players: Walmart, Amazon, and Best Buy!!!

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It as Thanksgiving morning and Reggie woke up to the many smell of turkey, dressing, and duck, as his mother is working hard try to finish thanksgiving dinner. It reminded him of when he was younger, going down to kitchen and mom snicking him a tasty treat.  Grabbing his phone from the nightstand to check he sees if his friend Melvin called, he did, so Reggie called him back. 

Listening to the phone ringing and then he hears: ” Hello”, Reggie responded “Hey noticed you called last night, did you need anything important,” sorry man fell asleep.  Reggie and Melvin talk about getting together for Black Friday later.   Then Reggie remember what happened on last black last year, when he called Melvin and told him about a deal he got and he acted funny, thinking to himself “Why when you shopping at a store, find a good deal, and tell a friend about you wonderful find?”  “They always get the grumpy look on their face and they say something like? “you’re just feeding the beast!!!” Why can’t they just be happy for you and enjoy your find?  

Dinner was on the table when Reggie walked in from washing his car and mom was rushing him to wash-up and get ready for dinner, saying “everybody’s starving.”  Over dinner Uncle Thomas, brought up the subject: Black Friday, and Reggie responded  “I’m  not going to miss those deals, so I will be leaving to go to Walmart right after dinner.” Mom said “your not going to stay and do your usually, eat too much, and fall asleep on the couch watching football?” Reggie responded “Nope.” Getting dressed I called my best friend Melvin and asked, “Man do you want to go to Walmart and check-out the people and deals like we planned earlier?” Melvin said “no man, have to take my grandparents home.”  “He said, OK man talk to you later,” he went by myself and listening to the festive commercials all the way to Walmart.   

When he arrived at Walmart he said to himself  “a lot of people they left their dinner tables also because this place is packed.” it seemed like everybody from everywhere was in town and was in there, thinking to himself it feels like I’m at a concert, as he  wading through the crowd.  Looking over the deals, which were easy to notice because they were in the middle of the aisle. He passed deal after deal because he was focused, looking for “His Deal” which was a 75” inch smart 4k Samsung, well, let me tell the truth that wasn’t it, he actually was looking for a touch screen 15” computers.

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Entering the electronic aisle, to him it seemed like the entire store was there pawing over the same type of computes he wanted.  He was having a great time, out on the town by himself, looking at all the deals, he felt like, as the expression says: “a kid in a candy store.” he was shoulder to shoulder with all the eager customer,  then he saw it, his Laptop, it was: a black and red computer with illuminated keyboard, touch screen, weight 4 pounds and all the traditional bells and whistles.

This Laptop was so cool, it seemed to float on air, and glow with the illumination of an ancient mystical, like a holy artifact, with a chorus singing and everything. However when I looked at the price, everything went back to normal, the singing stopped, the glow disappeared and it came crashing back down to earth.  He thought to himself “What a let down, even with the sales price the computer was out of my budget.”  So I picked it up anyway, and walked though the store as I walked around with it I thought to myself, “I can move this money around, and maybe I can get it”, then his other-self said “you deserve it, because you haven’t ever spent money like this on yourself”, then the last voice came to my head and said Loudly: “ you know that’s a lot of money!!!” So he put it back on the shelf, and left the store with the plan of returning the next morning, only after he check online to see If he could find a better deal.

He left the store in full compilation mode: got home pulled out his phone and tablet and started my research.  The four major sites when it comes to sales, price and availability of products: Walmart, Target, Best Buy, and Amazon, the first problem  encountered was the setup of all the sites: 

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Amazon, I didn’t like because there site because how the website was set up, and the crazy thing is that it’s a online site, the problems were:

  • No separation of the black Friday deals from the other company products   
  • No organization of the Black Friday deals
  • No price comparisons from the original price to the deal price
  • Just constant advertisement of black Friday deal with ways to click to their site and once you get their your lost.  

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Best Buy, I thought this site was frustrating because the website, was setup like someone did it too quickly:

  • A separation of Black Friday deals, but they were too clutter, because it was item everywhere on one page
  • I liked that they reference products by icon, easy choices 
  • However very little to no comparisons, it had price comparison but no product comparison!!!                                                Image result for walmart    

WalMart was the last website I visited and was pleasantly pleased, I don’t like many box store’s but their site was a welcome and comfortable alternative to Amazon and Best Buy.

  • The website was so easy to access and to manuver,
  • The icons assessable and understandable
  • Separated the black Friday deals
  • Very organized and alot of price and product comparison.

After reading through the specs and comparing products, he realized that Walmart had the best deal.  He went back to Walmart and picked up his dream laptop.

On my way home,  he called his friend Melvin, telling him about his day and how he thought that he made a good choice, and Melvin rebutted him with: ” seems like you did, get a great, but you know when you go to those big box, stores you are just feed the beast.”  Reggie didn’t know what to do with that statement, so he let it just drift into the quiet, then I asked “would you like to check it out?” Melvin said “yeah, bring it over,” and Reggie told him “I would be over, right away.”Image result for people shopping

On his way over while listening to the radio, he heard all the billions which shopper spent, and how much they will spend on Cyber Monday.  He started thinking about what Melvin said”feeding the Beast.” Reggie came to the conclusion,  “that maybe Melvin’s right, maybe I did feed “the beast” but I got a great deal doing it!!!”

I hope you have a pleasant shopping experience this holiday season!!!

Aging: Most Of Us Do It In Silents

Aging in your silver year’s, is a strange and sometimes scary process to navigate, it happens whether we want it to happen or not, because it’s a part of the natural life process.  My personal experience with aging is that most of us do it secretly, because we are ashamed of getting older, because: we lie about our age, except when it’s a bragging point, we color our hair, buy new hair(to cover-up or surgically grow} , get enhancement surgery, or we exercise, all in the name of not being considered older.


But no matter how we put up barricades, bars on windows, or add a entire jar of aging cream, aging finds us, every morning, every day and every night it’s finds us.  It lurks silently in our bodies and we only notice it through pains, limiting movement, and limited desire, that it’s there. However we choose to suffer in silence and hide it from our significant other, our friends, and family members, and work so hard to hide it that we make excuses for the missteps, the pains, or our other issue, but we see and feel every bit of it, no matter how we try to hide it. 

The only way to breakout of this suffocating and foolish deception is to go “Cold Turkey, talking about our change of age issues, stop getting any surgeries that makes us look younger, throw away the aging cream, salves, and youth pills and be who we are at the age we are.  So If you need help with that, as most of us do, here is some tips to help you start the process:

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Focus on the things you’re grateful for. The longer you live, the more you lose. But as you lose people and things, life becomes even more precious. When you stop taking things for granted, you appreciate and enjoy what you have even more.

Acknowledge and express your feelings. You may have a hard time showing emotions, perhaps feeling that such a display is inappropriate and weak. But burying your feelings can lead to anger, resentment, and depression. Don’t deny what you’re going through. Find healthy ways to process your feelings, perhaps by talking with a close friend or writing in a journal.

Accept the things you can’t change. Many things in life are beyond our control. Rather than stressing out over them, focus on the things you can control such as the way you choose to react to problems. Face your limitations with dignity and a healthy dose of humor.

Look for the silver lining. As the saying goes, “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” When facing major challenges, try to look at them as opportunities for personal growth. If your own poor choices contributed to a stressful situation, reflect on them and learn from your mistakes.

Take daily action to deal with life’s challenges. When a challenge seems too big to handle, sweeping it under the carpet often appears the easiest option. But ignoring the problem doesn’t make it go away; it allows both the problem and your anxiety to build. Instead, take things one small step at a time. Even a small step can go a long way to boosting your confidence and reminding you that you are not powerless. (Helpguide.org)

Now that you have made the first step, let’s make a leap from the Idea: that I’m OK with who I am as a aging person, to the belief that you can be happy and healthy as an aging person. These seven step, if mastered you will be ahead of the aging curve and will move into the process of:  living well as you age.


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Your bones. Bones can become thinner and more brittle in old age, especially in women, sometimes resulting in the fragile bone condition called osteoporosis. Thinning bones and decreasing bone mass can put you at risk for falls that can easily result in broken bones. Be sure to talk with your physician about what you can do to prevent osteoporosis and falls.
Your heart. While a healthy diet and regular exercise can keep your heart healthy, it may become slightly enlarged, your heart rate may lower, and the walls of the heart may thicken.


Your brain and nervous system. Getting older can cause changes in your reflexes and even your senses. While dementia is not a normal consequence of old age, it is common for people to experience some slight forgetfulness as they get older. Cells in the brain and nerves can be damaged by the formation of plaques and tangles, abnormalities that could eventually lead to dementia.


Your digestive system. As you age, your digestive tract becomes more firm and rigid, and doesn’t contract as often. This change can lead to problems such as constipation, stomach pain, and feelings of nausea; a better diet can help.
Your senses. You may notice that your vision and hearing aren’t quite as sharp as they once were. You may start to lose your sense of taste — flavors may not seem as distinct to you. Your senses of smell and touch may also weaken. Your body is taking longer to react and needs more to stimulate it.


Your teeth. The tough enamel that protects your teeth from decay can start to wear away over the years, leaving you susceptible to cavities. Gum disease is also a concern for older adults. Good dental hygiene can protect your teeth and gums. Dry mouth, which is a common side effect of many medications that seniors take, may also be a problem.


Your skin. With old age, your skin loses its elasticity and may start to sag and wrinkle. However, the more you protected your skin from sun damage and smoking when you were younger, the better your skin will look as you get older. Start protecting your skin now to prevent further damage, as well as skin cancer.


Your sex life. After menopause, when menstruation stops, many women experience physical changes like a loss of vaginal lubrication. Men may experience erectile dysfunction. Fortunately, both problems can be easily treated.


Many bodily changes are a natural part of aging, but they don’t have to slow you down. What’s more, there’s a lot you can do to protect your body and keep it as healthy as possible. (By Diana Rodriguez)


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While maintaining your physical health is important to healthy aging, it’s also key to value the experience and maturity you gain with advancing years. Practicing healthy habits throughout your life is ideal, but it’s never too late reap the benefits of taking good care of yourself, even as you get older.

Here are some healthy aging tips that are good advice at any stage of life:

1. Stay physically active with regular exercise.

2. Stay socially active with friends and family and within your community.

3.  Eat a healthy, well-balanced diet — dump the junk food in favor of fiber-rich, low-fat, and low-cholesterol eating.

4.  Don’t neglect yourself: Regular check-ups with your doctor, dentist, and optometrist are even more important now.

5.  Take all medications as directed by your doctor.

6.  Limit alcohol consumption and cut out smoking.

7.  Get the sleep that your body needs.

Also, This Is Very Important: taking care of your physical self is vital, but it’s important that you tend to your emotional health as well. Reap the rewards of your long life, and enjoy each and every day. Now is the time to savor good health and happiness.(By Diana Rodriguez)

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Physical health benefits

Helps you maintain or lose weight. As metabolism naturally slows with age, maintaining a healthy weight is a challenge. Exercise helps increase metabolism and builds muscle mass, helping to burn more calories.

Reduces the impact of illness and chronic disease. People who exercise tend to have improved immune and digestive functioning, better blood pressure and bone density, and a lower risk of Alzheimer’s disease, diabetes, obesity, heart disease, osteoporosis, and certain cancers.

Enhances mobility, flexibility, and balance. Exercise improves your strength, flexibility and posture, which in turn will help with balance, coordination, and reducing the risk of falls. Strength training also helps alleviate the symptoms of chronic conditions such as arthritis.

Mental health benefits

Improves sleep. Quality sleep is vital for your overall health. Regular activity can help you fall asleep more quickly, sleep more deeply, and wake feeling more energetic and refreshed.

Boosts mood and self-confidence. Exercise is a huge stress reliever and the endorphins produced can actually help reduce feelings of sadness, depression, or anxiety. Being active and feeling strong naturally helps you feel more self-confident.

Does amazing things for the brain. Activities like Sudoku or crossword puzzles can help keep your brain active, but little comes close to the beneficial effects of exercise on the brain. It can help brain functions as diverse as multitasking and creativity and can help prevent memory loss, cognitive decline, and dementia. Getting active may even help slow the progression of brain disorders such as Alzheimer’s disease.(Helpguide.org)   

in Conclusion

Aging is a gradual, continuous process of natural change that begins in early adulthood. During early middle age, many bodily functions begin to gradually decline.

People do not become old or elderly at any specific age. Traditionally, age 65 has been designated as the beginning of old age. But the reason was based in history, not biology. Many years ago, age 65 was chosen as the age for retirement in Germany, the first nation to establish a retirement program, and it continues to be the retirement age for most people in developed societies, although this tradition is changing.

.When a person becomes old can be answered in different ways:

  • Chronologic age: Chronologic age is based solely on the passage of time. It is a person’s age in years. Chronologic age has limited significance in terms of health. Nonetheless, the likelihood of developing a health problem increases as people age, and it is health problems, rather than normal aging, that are the primary cause of functional loss during old age. Because chronologic age helps predict many health problems, it has some legal and financial uses.
  • Biological age: Biological age refers to changes in the body that commonly occur as people age. Because these changes affect some people sooner than others, some people are biologically old at 40, and others at later ages. However, most noticeable differences in apparent age among people of similar chronologic age are caused by lifestyle, habit, and subtle effects of disease rather than by differences in actual aging.
  • Psychologic age: Psychologic age is based on how people act and feel. For example, an 80-year-old who works, plans, looks forward to future events, and participates in many activities is considered psychologically young.

Most people do not need the expertise of a geriatrician (a doctor who specializes in the care of the elderly) until they are 70 to 75 years old.

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Healthy aging refers to postponement of or reduction in the undesired effects of aging. The goals of healthy aging are maintaining physical and mental health, avoiding disorders, and remaining active and independent. For most people, maintaining general good health requires more effort as they age. Developing certain healthy habits can help, such as

  • Following a nutritious diet
  • Exercising regularly
  • Staying mentally active

The sooner a person develops these habits, the better. However, it is never too late to begin. In this way, people can have some control over what happens to them as they age. (http://www.merckmanuals.com)     



Man, I Love That Ringtone: The Evolution Of Computer Sounds!!!

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The movies house was quiet and dark, the black screen turned all the colors of the movie “SUPERFLY”  the movie open with Ron O’neal, driving his Cadillac down the street and you hear a noise and he picks up a thing that looks like a phone and says “hello.” “High Five-ing” my brother and asking him “man did you see that?” The idea of the car phone was hatched in my mind and secretly hoped, wished, and prayed for the pimp clothing,  and the Cadillac, with no Idea that less than two decades later, these phones would be an everyday occurrence.  And just 10 years after that, everyone would be walking around with a phone in their pockets, with their own individual ringtones.  As the technology of computers, phones, Iproducts, Android product grows, so does the sounds and tones from those particular products.

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That laptop-based studio sitting in front of you didn’t just arrive by accident – it’s taken well over fifty years of development work to get to the advanced stage we’re at now.

This being the case, MusicRadar thought it was about time we gave you a quick history lesson and briefed you on some of the landmark moments in computer music history.

1951 – The first computer music recording    Image result for first computer music recording

Believe it or not, computers were being used to make music as long as 57 years ago. The oldest known recording is of a Ferranti Mark 1 computer at the University of Manchester – it played God Save The Queen, Baa Baa Black Sheep and In The Mood. The revolution had begun…


1957 – Max Mathews writes MUSIC

Mathews is often cited as one of computer music’s greatest pioneers, and one of his earliest achievements was writing the MUSIC program while at Bell Labs in the USA. This was used to create a 17-second piece that was performed in New York City on an IBM 704 computer.


1982 – Commodore 64 launched

Lots of great development work was done in the 1960s and 70s, but it was when Commodore launched the C64 that home computer music making really got going. It was notable for the inclusion of its SID sound chip, which enabled users to create music using a whopping three channels of synthesis. In fact, the distinctive SID sound is still popular today, which is one of the reasons why you can download C64 emulators for your Mac or PC.


1983 – The birth of MIDI        Image result for The birth of MIDI

Standing for Musical Instrument Digital Interface, the introduction of MIDI was of crucial importance to high-tech music makers. This new protocol enabled computers, synths and other hardware to talk to each other, and is still in widespread use today. Without MIDI, computer music history would be very different indeed.


1985 – Atari releases the ST

We might all be using PCs and Macs these days, but back in the 80s, the Atari ST was the machine that every computer musician wanted to own. The son of Atari’s CEO had the genius

idea of fitting it with MIDI ports, making it the perfect platform for those looking to bring external hardware under the control of their computer.


1989 – Steinberg releases Cubase

Steinberg had previously achieved recognition with the widely used Pro-24 sequencer, but Cubase is the software that made its name. The first version introduced the concept of the ‘arrange page’ with its vertical list of tracks and horizontal timeline – a design that quickly became the standard interface for all commercially developed sequencers.


Early 1990s – Audio recording arrives

Having previously been used for sequencing external gear via MIDI, computers at last started to     become audio recording devices in their own right. Steinberg released Cubase Audio for Mac in 1991, and an even better version for Atari’s Falcon in 1993.


1991 – Sound Blaster Pro sound-card                Image result for Sound Blaster Pro sound-card

The very first of Creative Labs’ hugely successful Sound Blaster soundcards was launched in 1989, but it was the Pro version that added 44.1kHz stereo recording. It was only 8-bit, though; 16-bit recording would have to wait until the launch of the Sound Blaster 16 a year later. This, theoretically, enabled the home computer user to record at ‘CD quality’.

1997 – Virtual Studio Technology

With the launch of Steinberg’s Cubase VST, it became possible not just to record multiple audio tracks on a computer, but also to process them with plug-in effects (previously, external hardware had been required). Other software developers soon started to equip their products with similar functionality.


1999 – The first plug-in instrument

Steinberg’s commitment to innovation was demonstrated again when it released Cubase VST 3.7. This gave us the option of plugging software instruments directly into the DAW – something we all take for granted these days – and came with Neon, a very basic analogue-style synth. A torrent of commercial and freeware instruments soon followed.

As it appears music was one of the original uses of the computer and I thought it was used as a tying device and over time it was used for downloading music and streaming


2000 – First version of Reason launched

Going on to become one of the most successful music apps of all time, the way Reason was presented – a virtual rack of recognizable studio gear – made even those who were skeptical about the potential of computer-based music production sit up and take notice. Suddenly, everything could be done in one application.

2001 – Ableton releases Live             Image result for Ableton releases Live  

Live broke the mould when it was released, and quickly made both users and developers realise that there isn’t just one way of making computer music. It looks and feels like no other software on the market, and is now used by musicians of all sorts around the world.


2008 – Another revolution?

Music software developers continue to push the boundaries – Celemony has developed new technology (Direct Note Access) that enables you to edit individual notes in mixed-down audio files. Meanwhile, new music applications are being released for handheld devices such as Apple’s iPhone and Nintendo’s DS. The future looks bright…

The fact that consumers are willing to pay up to $3 for ringtones has made mobile music a profitable part of the music industry.[16] The Manhattan-based marketing and consulting firm Consect estimated ringtones generated $4 billion in worldwide sales in 2004.[13] According to Fortune magazine, ring tones generated more than $2 billion in worldwide sales during 2005.[17]The rise of sound files also contributed to the popularization of ringtones. In 2003 for example, the Japanese ringtone market, which alone was worth US $900 million, experienced US $66.4 million worth of sound file ringtone sales.[14] In 2003, the global ringtone industry was worth somewhere between US $2.5 and US $3.5 billion.[14] In 2009, the research firm SNL Kagan estimated that sales of ringtones in the United States peaked at $714 million in 2007.[18] SNL Kagan estimated U.S. sales in 2008 declined to $541 million, due in part to consumers having learned to create ringtones themselves.[16]

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A telephone rings when the telephone network indicates an incoming call, so that the recipient is alerted of the calling attempt. For landline telephones typically receive an electrical alternating current signal, called power ringing, generated by the telephone exchange to which the telephone is connected. The ringing current originally operated an electric bell. For mobile phones, the network sends a message to the device, indicating the incoming call. The caller is informed about the progress of the call by the audible ringing signal, often called ring-back tone. Power ringing and audible ringing are not synchronized, later A “Bell Chime” was also offered, which could be set to chime like a doorbell or to ring like an ordinary phone.

The predecessors of ringtones date back to the beginnings of telephony, modern ringtones began to appear in the 1960’s and have expanded into tunes and many customization tones or melodies.[4] Arguably the first ringtone (in the modern sense) appeared in the movie Our Man Flint in 1966, where the head of the secret government agency had a red phone that went directly to the President and rang with a distinctive musical ringtone (probably made by the sound effects crew using an early analog synthesizer).

Types Of Ringtone

  • Monophonic: The original ringtones play only one note at a time.
  • Polyphonic: A polyphonic ring tone can consist of several notes at a time. The first polyphonic ring tones used sequenced recording methods such as MIDI. Such recordings specify what synthetic instrument should play a note at a given time, and the actual instrument sound is dependent upon the playback device. Later, synthesized instruments could be included along with the composition data, which allowed for more varied sounds beyond the built-in sound bank of each phone.
  • truetone: A truetone, also known as realtone, mastertone, superphonic ringtone, is an audio recording, typically in a common format such as MP3 or AAC. Truetones, which are often excerpts from songs, have become popular as ring tones. The first truetone service was started by au in December 2002.[19]My Gift to You” by Chemistry was the first song to be distributed as a truetone.[citation needed]
  • Sing tone: A sing tone is a ring tone created in karaoke style, combining a user’s recorded voice with a backing track. (Wikipedia)

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In Conclusion: Computers have made noises since Eniac was rolled out in 1947. It seems one of the problems with programming the early systems was knowing that everything was operating properly. That’s why you see computers in 50s science fiction movies covered in lights. A common trick was to connect a loudspeaker to a key component in the main processor — this would give tones of various pitches as data moved in and out of the accumulator. As long as a program was running, the tones would change in a random sort of way. A steady pitch meant the program was caught in a loop and needed to be shut down. That’s how beedle beep became the signifier of computer operation. (http://artsites.ucsc.edu}

This beeping, buzzing and noise became application introductions, video game sounds, and ringtones, and all the sounds we enjoy today.  


The Misconception of Peace Officers, Police Officer


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As a child we are taught to listen to the police and that policemen are our friends through a program called “officer friendly.” “Officer Friendly is a model program to acquaint children and young adults with law enforcement officials as a part of a community relations campaign. The program was especially popular in the United States from the 1960’s to the 1980’s, but it continues in some police departments. Officer Friendly is generally not a specific character, and is in the public domain.”(Wikipedia) He was a officer that we can come to in a: emergence and he was nice, kind, and very helpful. However when inner city children actually encountered this individual as the mean, forceful, and sometimes violent officer coming to pick up their “law breaking” parent.  Most of them could not assess the difference, that these same officers can be friendly, but also have a duty to the community.    

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 So Today, If you listen to any news show at anytime of any week, you will hear a story about the brutality of police and how they are beating and killing citizens in America, How they are over reaching their authority and how they jump to conclusions and kill innocent people. Here are Five Facts on Police brutality that comes for current newspapers:

  1. More than 920 people have been killed by the police in 2015

“The Counted” is an ongoing interactive research project by The Guardian which tracks the number of people killed by police in the U.S. The project records other demographics surrounding the events as well, such as race, state, age and gender. There is also a personalized account for each of the victim, like Freddie Gray. According to Mapping Police Violence, black people are three times more likely to be killed by police than whites.

  1. Black Americans are more than twice likely to be unarmed when killed during police encounters than whites.

An analysis published by The Guardian in May found 32 percent of black people killed by police this year were unarmed, compared to 15 percent of white people and 25 percent of Hispanic and Latino people.

  1. The group just as likely as blacks to be killed by law enforcement officers? Native Americans.

As of 2011, there are 5.1 million American Indians and Alaska Natives living in the United States. Although that number is significantly less than the 45 million black Americans in the country, Mic reports that both groups are killed by law enforcement officials at rates much higher than their share of the population, like John T. Williams who was shot and killed by police in Seattle.

  1. Excessive force is one of the most common forms of police misconduct

Excessive force reports made up more than 23 percent of all police misconduct reports in 2010, according to the Cato Institute’s National Police Misconduct Reporting Project. Of those excessive force reports, an estimated 57 percent involved cases of physical use of force, which include chokeholds, baton strikes and other physical attacks. 15 percent involved firearm-related complaints.

  1. For every 1,000 people killed by police, only one officer is convicted of a crime.

The Washington Post and Bowling Green University published a vividly thorough informative study about police officers who have killed people in the United States since 2005. The study found that among the thousands who have killed at the hands of cops since that year, only 54 officers have been charged. The Post reported that most officers were cleared or acquitted in the resolved cases.

These articles are terrible and it puts police in a terrible light, because if the reader takes them as fact, they will conclude two things in particular:

  1. That all police are violent and kill a lot of citizens and
  2. That these same policemen twice as likely to kill black citizens.

However this is far from the truth, I believe that, the problem is not with the police, it with the citizen: narrow  interpretation of the police duties, their personal belief of “officer friendly” taught to them in their youth, and their under-educated interpretation of the law.                                                                                                 

The men or women that take an oath to become Peace Officers, do it with the truest sincerity and hope to service and protect the public. They are the actual hero’s in our communities and in our neighborhoods. The problem with most of us is that we don’t actually realize their job and their duty.

When you call nine-one-one and the police comes to your home, people don’t realize who you they are calling to come to your house: you are calling: Police not a security guard, not a soldiers. Let me explain what each of these individuals and what they actually do.

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A Officer is Police officers are generally charged with the apprehension of criminals and the prevention and detection of crime, protection and assistance of the general public, and the maintenance of public order. Police officers may be sworn to an oath, and have the power to arrest people and detain them for a limited time, along with other duties and powers. Some police officers may also be trained in special duties, such as counter-terrorism, surveillance, child protection, VIP protection, civil law enforcement, and investigation techniques into major crime including fraud, rape, murder, and drug trafficking. Although many police officers wear a corresponding uniform, some police officers are plain-clothed in order to dissimulate as ordinary citizens.(Wikipedia)

Police Officer duties:

Maintain peace in environment at all times and assist law enforcement teams for same and perform regular investigations on crime and facilitate arrest of all violators.

Monitor and manage control on all traffic violators and assist all citizens in emergency situation to protect all rights.

Ensure compliance to all local, municipal, state and Federal laws to protect all property and establish all crime committed and prepare required paperwork.

Administer all cases and assist to distinguish appropriate criminal and civil cases.

Perform regular foot patrol on assign area as per shift requirement and prepare record for all shift duties and assist to classify all property within required timeframe.

Manage and provide response to all alarms to monitor all crime in progress and make arrest for all suspects from crime scene.

Maintain security of person and property at all times and perform regular patrol on all facilities and assist to make all required arrests.

Perform investigation for all unusual activities and maintain record of all evidence and prepare reports for all sketches.

Manage communication with all law enforcement channels and assist in all kinds of rescue operations.

Monitor all computer surveillance equipment and provide required information to all patients and employees.(www.greatsampleresume)  

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They are not guards, guard or A security guard (also known as a security officer or protective agent) is a person employed by a private party to protect the employing party’s assets (property, people, equipment, money, etc.) from a variety of hazards (such as waste, damaged property, unsafe worker behavior, criminal activity such as theft, etc.) by using preventative measures. Security guards do this by maintaining a high-visibility presence to deter illegal and inappropriate actions, looking (either directly, through patrols, or indirectly, by monitoring alarm systems or video surveillance cameras) for signs of crime or other hazards (such as a fire), taking action to minimize damage (such as warning and escorting trespassers off property), and reporting any incidents to their clients and emergency services (such as the police or paramedics), as appropriate.[1]

Security officers are generally uniformed to represent their lawful authority to protect private property. Security guards are generally governed by legal regulations, which set out the requirements for eligibility (e.g., a criminal record check) and the permitted authorities of a security guard in a given jurisdiction. The authorities permitted to security guards vary by country and sub-national jurisdiction. Security officers are hired by a range of organizations, including businesses, government departments and agencies and not-for-profit organizations (e.g., churches and charitable organization.  Security officers are sometimes regarded as fulfilling a private policing function(Wikipedia) Security Guards can not arrest anyone but they detain a person or group until the actual police come.                                                                     Image result for soldier

Police aren’t soldiers either: Soldiers are: A military is a force authorized to use lethal or deadly force and weapons to support the interests of the state and some or all of its citizens. It typically consists of an Army, Navy, Air Force, and in certain countries the Marines and Coast Guard. The task of the military is usually defined as defense of the state, and its citizens, and the prosecution of war against another state. The military may also have additional sanctioned and non-sanctioned functions within a society, including, the promotion of a political agenda, protecting corporate economic interests, internal population control, construction, emergency services, social ceremonies, and guarding important areas. The military may also function as a discrete subculture within a larger civil society, through the development of separate infrastructures, which may include housing, schools, utilities, logistics, health and medical, law, food production, finance and banking. In broad usage, the terms “armed forces” and “military” are often treated as synonymous, although in technical usage a distinction is sometimes made in which a country’s armed forces may include both its military and other paramilitary forces. Armed force is the use of armed forces to achieve political objectives. There are various forms of irregular military forces, not belonging to a recognized state; though they share many attributes with regular military force. (Wikipedia) When soldiers come they are there to battle enemies foreign and domestic, meaning they “will shoot first and ask questions later” They have not policing function. 

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With that information, lets explore what a policemen or women  do. First they can choose to be “officer friendly” but are not governed by policy to be that. Their training teaches them to serve and protect, that means, they serve the victim, the community, and the city, by protect the weak, the innocent, and the vulnerable, we call this the victim.  Also they use whatever force that it takes, to stop a criminal, or  anyone doing crime. They stop them by  using: a night stick, a Taser, pepper spray, and or bullet. 

Some people call bullets lethal force but when a victim is being hurt to the point of death, a bullet might be a welcome gift to stop the violent act.  Police choose first to stop and detain,  but killing, is not what police want to do, but if it helps to bring peace and stop ciaos they will do it. 

We have to remember, they are the one who we call when there is trouble, and they leave their comfort, and families to help us, sometimes they die helping us. 

So when you choose to call a officer to come to your emergency, consider calling a friend, your parents, or your pastor. That’s if you want the person you love to stop harming you, because if you call the police: it’s not starting to get serious, it is serious. 

 Remember what I said earlier: they bring Blackjack, Taser, Pepper Spray, and Bullets, and these tools might be the only thing that will stop, and or slow down the person that’s harming you. The main thing to understand, is that they will not hesitate to use anyone of them!!! Its their duty to Serve and Protect!!!       



Decoy Stories: Because I’m Too Scared Of Telling The Actual Real Ones!!!!

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Thomas and Carolina was always together, from middle school and high school but not so much after high school, because Thomas went to the Middle East for the “War In Iran” and Carolina went to college to study Journalism. They kept in touch because she remembers him always saying “I will comeback from the war in two years, and make you an honest women. ” So today is two years later and she is waiting at the Airport with balloons and new cellphone in hand, in anticipation of Thomas coming home for good.

The plane lands and Carolina is more nervous than before, talking incessantly, questions like: “What if he doesn’t recognize me? What if he don’t like my new hair color? Why is this taking so long? What if…” There he is at the door way to the arrival area and she stopped talking, and start running and crying. They embraced and kissed hugged and cried, all the way to the restaurant for dinner, to the the surprise party and all the way home afterwards. They just wouldn’t let each other go, they were back together, two peas and one pod.

During their first week back together: Thomas proposed, they put down for a house and are making wedding plans. Everyday just the two of them and every-night they joined the family and there old gang spent time talking. They talked about the things that happened while both of them were away: Carolina’s school work, what happened in town and Thomas time in Iran, and most of the time Thomas would tell the funniest stories. However Carolina would notice how the stories we’re always funny, and that he continued to tell the same stories and would avoid tell actual stories, about the pain of war. But She remained quiet and wouldn’t say anything about it, because it would cause trouble.

Then one day while Thomas was talking with his grandpa, and his grandpa asked a question, he asked: “was it any war battle’s over there? I know you had some funny moments, but were you ever scared or frightened over there?” The entire room went silent and everyone was eager to hear what Thomas would say, but he just transitioned into another decoy story. However grandpa was persistent and started to ask more questions. Then Sue changed the mood by saying: “Hey that’s enough talking Thomas, let’s somebody else have the floor? She was realizing that he may not be ready to talk about what happened over there yet. Then she asked Thomas to go in the kitchen to get her some more wine, while Thomas was in the kitchen, Sue scolded grandpa by saying: Thomas might not want to experience the trauma of the war right now “GRANDPA,” can we please keep the questions basic? Then Grandpa said: how do you know he has experienced trauma? Sue explained: Image result for traumatic experience in war

The Three Reasons You Know That A Person, Your Clients Has Experience Trama

1) Can they actually talk about it?

So-called ‘critical incident debriefing’ (now shown to be counterproductive for many survivors of trauma (3) (4)) tries to get traumatized people to talk about what happened to them as soon after the event as possible.

This might be okay for the 70% or so of people who would have recovered naturally anyway. But for people in the more vulnerable group – likely anyway to be more severely traumatized – talking about it, or trying to relate what happened in words, can actually worsen the trauma in the brain by ‘re-activating’ it and embedding it deeper.

Dr Noreen Tehrani, an occupational health and counselling psychologist specializing in post traumatic stress, explains what happens: “If a trauma victim is debriefed in a state of high emotion, the process can increase the arousal to the point of overload, trapping the sensory impressions in the amygdala.” (5)

If your client can’t talk about a trauma, don’t push it. Until you have de-traumatized the memory, talking about it will make it worse.

Until you de-traumatize a memory, talking about it will make it worse.

2) Does it still feel recent?

Many therapists assume that someone ‘must be holding on to trauma’ if they have been through something awful.

But why?

The brain is magnificently adaptive. Some people don’t need help overcoming a trauma (although, of course, if there has been a massive amount of traumatic experience then not needing help is quite rare).

They fall within the 75% of people who are able to talk it out, as Ellie had.

I asked her to tell me whether, when she thought about the time her mother had tried to kill her, she felt anxious right now, forty years later.

“It was terrifying at the time!”

“Yes, but does it make you feel scared now, just recalling it?”

“No, because I know it’s way in the past. It feels like a long time ago.”

This told me that this memory, terrible though it was, was no longer ‘live’ for Ellie.

Because of the way trauma gets ‘lodged’ in the brain, traumatic memories don’t tend to fade with time until they are ‘de-traumatized’. (I use the Rewind Technique to do this as it is the safest fastest method I know of).

Another client of mine who was in her sixties recalled finding herself hanging by her fingers from a loft opening when her brother, for a laugh, removed the ladder from beneath her feet. She told me that this 50-year-old memory still felt like it happened only yesterday.

So, ask your client whether the traumatic incident feels more recent than it actually was when it comes to mind.

3) Do even nebulous ‘reminders’ set off flashbacks?

Why Talking About A Tramatic Problem Might Not Advised

A war veteran I saw would feel terrified at the sound of fireworks or other sudden noises. He also felt compelled to walk down the middle of the road (in spite of the obvious dangers!) because back in Afghanistan roadside bombs had been common and deadly.

A woman who had been raped by a man with a beard would have flashbacks at the sight of a bearded man. That’s a lot of flashbacks.

You can, of course, ask someone straight out whether they still get flashbacks to the event, but to show them that you really understand how trauma works you can ask them whether even the vaguest of reminders sets off a huge panic response within them.

The amygdala deep within the brain of someone who has PTSD has been ‘imprinted’ with the pattern of the trauma they’ve experienced. This pattern contains all the information surrounding the initial event – including aspects not available to conscious memory. (6) Once this traumatic template is in place, all new incoming information is compared to the traumatic pattern to check if there is a complete or even just a partial match that requires the amygdala to fire into action.

This is your key. If just elements of the pattern of the initial incident set off panic, then your client is in need of de-traumatisan.(www.unk.com)Image result for talking to a therapist cartoon

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One More Study says:

It is often assumed that the way to get past something is to face/feel/process. Talk, write, see a therapist and re-visit the trauma.

  • Yes, self-expression and insight foster healing.
  • True, understanding who was who, what was what and why it all happened undoes despair.
  • Granted, sharing builds faith and kills shame because people step up, emotionally speaking.
  • Correct, opening up decreases pessimism, increases optimism and combats anxiety and depression.
  • We know that talking cures.

Sometimes, but not always.

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For some people “going back there,” is not useful and can even exacerbate the problem. Steering clear of a treacherous emotional place may be therapeutic. If one survives but still feels damaged, different or deeply changed, maybe the matter was too much or too negative to handle. In some cases, the choice to avoid re-exposure is a healthy instinct. Choosing to focus on the life affirming action instead of the undermining thought can be a deeply sound decisions

Going for a run, picking up a paintbrush or playing with peers rather than pondering the problem may be just the right medicine. It may be the most effective path for restoration of one’s happier self. Activities that conjure can-do and do-good may help one get over the hump.

A compelling article by veteran, journalist and PTSD survivor David J. Morris, http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/01/17/after-ptsd-more-trauma/?_r=0 suggests that for some people re-exposure to the trauma via Prolonged Exposure Therapymakes things worse. Instead of gaining mastery over the event, they deteriorate. On the other hand, moving away from the memory makes things better. Mr. Morris found that Cognitive Processing Therapy – expressing thoughts and feelings without re-immersing in the trauma, helped. While the event cannot be undone, it can be rendered far less important and overshadowed by other things if thoughts are re-directed.

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One might:

  1. Distract with movies or music
  2. Immerse in a compelling task
  3. Repeat comforting verses
  4. Connect to others in meaningful ways
  5. Do something physical.
  6. Create. Tend. Make.

Sue continues: I read that you shouldn’t make a person talk about the activities that they have experienced because:

“These activities can set the mind on a different path. At any rate, talking about the problem does not always change things for the better. And for the record, problems can get better in treatment without ever being discussed.”

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Nine Reasons NOT To Talk about “What Happened” when Healing from Trauma

  1. Re-traumatization by Going Too Fast. Having things happen too fast is a characteristic of trauma itself. Pushing yourself to tell your story, overriding any part of yourself that feels unsure or unready, constitutes another trauma because it’s just another case of too much too soon.
  2. Re-traumatization by Breaking the Protective Barriers in the Brain. The brain encapsulates traumatic memories away from us for a verygood reason. It’s not healthy to try to just break apart these protective structures. This could cause a lot of problems. If impatient, you could begin making up the story because you don’t understand why you can’t actually remember it. You could numb out so much you can’t speak with any coherency. You could become so disorganized all the pieces of the story come out like shattered glass, all in the wrong order. This could cause you to feel insane and embarrassed, and like a liar. You may not realize the brain has cut you off from the memories for a number of very good reasons and it’s trying to help you heal, not be a source of embarrassment and confusion for you. It’s much better to honor the brain’s wisdom in putting the walls up. Breaking them is destructive. Healing should be gentle and constructive. There are many ways to heal traumatic memories without breaking anything.
  3. Re-traumatization by Reliving It. Telling could re-traumatize a person by forcing them to relive the trauma. Because of this forced re-living of the horror, just the idea of telling What Happened can be utterly terrifying. It can be totally, completely overwhelming. It’s not going to have any therapeutic value if it’s bringing about utter terror. Reliving past trauma is itself another trauma. If you are pushing yourself through terror, this is not about your own healing anymore, it’s about some part of you that is being forceful and hurtful with yourself, or trying to please another person.
  4. Re-traumatization by Being Too Vulnerable. Telling one’s story could traumatize a person by making them too open and vulnerable than what is healthy. Some trauma victims are used to being too vulnerable and do not know how to protect themselves yet. Even if nobody ends up criticizing what they have to say, just the act of opening up about what happened could constitute a reliving of the experience of being overly vulnerable and too open to being abused. This could re-create the unhealthy pattern of others forcing too much vulnerability on them. It reinforces habits from being abused in the past.
  5. Traumatization by Being Attacked. Telling one’s story can open oneself up to people saying it’s not true, questioning it, criticizing it, picking it apart, trolling, abusing. Having details of your story attacked, your character belittled in some way or being outright not believed, when you are actually telling the truth – these kinds of things constitute an additional set of traumatic events to deal with.
  6. Telling of one’s story could traumatize other people. This is something I had not thought about at all until my therapist pointed it out. If we care not only about our own psychological health and well-being but that of others, we would exercise some caution when putting things into the world that might end up traumatizing other people. I may think carefully about the context I am putting it in and really make sure it’s what people are expecting to read about in that context. Of course, a trigger warning is important to help people understand that it may have difficult content and then they actually take responsibility for reading it. I think it’s very important and healing to engage in creative or other forms of self-expression around trauma, but it does make sense to at least spend a little time considering the context and the impact a story of trauma could have on others before sharing it and make sure it comes with a warning. If the telling of the story has therapeutic value for others who have been through the same thing, then you can weigh the therapeutic value with the potential traumatic impact and then think about whether the traumatic parts are absolutely necessary in order to achieve the results you want (they could be crucial – every case is a unique case).(Note that this is in reference to the public, friends and family – you don’t need to be cautious when you tell your therapist because they are trained to listen to every detail of whatever you need to express to them and regulate themselves if they need to.)
  7. If you were not believed in the past, you could also be terrified due to the trauma of not being believed. If your story is quite unusual, or if you were (for all reasons listed so far) unable to make it make any sense to others, you may have experienced the very real trauma of not being believed. Perhaps you revealed something to someone you thought you could trust and that someone broke your trust. Not being believed is an additional trauma. It would make sense to focus some time on healing the emotions related to this trauma of not being believed before you get into the trauma story itself because whenever you think about telling your story, this additional trauma will rear it’s ugly head and stand in your way.
  8. If your trauma involves something socially negated, a social stigma, your risk is higher. If your story involves something taboo, not socially acceptable, something people don’t generally understand or condone, something generally rejected or ridiculed, this can make it take longer to feel safe and find a safe person to talk to. You actually do have a higher risk of being condemned or misunderstood in this case.
  9. If your story is incredibly long, spanning many years, you may be unable to tell it. In my case my story is very long. Having a very long story is another reason it can be hard to tell one’s story because it’s technically a book (or several). It’s not “a trauma” but a giant landscape of thousands of traumas. I know I’m telling a bit of my story here – but it feels relatively safe to me since I’m leaving out any details so there is nothing gory or graphic; rather it is a brief, surface, intellectual telling which focuses primarily on the math. I have to make peace with the fact that I won’t be understood from this brief telling. But I do want to explain how the length of a trauma story can make it almost impossible to tell. Anyway, in my case, my body was being destroyed for approximately two months (one in 07 and one in 08). The body has hundreds of systems, each system has hundreds of components that can be broken and fail. During the first one and a half years or so, every hour of every day was different. One 24 hour period could take up to 20 pages to describe accurately in terms of both the complexities of what happened physiologically and the psychological impact. I was rehabilitating for 3 years (technically I still am but systems are stabilized now). Say it takes an average of 5 pages to describe each day, over 3 years – that comes to 5,475 pages to give an accurate description of what happened – and this is only for the two medical accidents/injuries/incidents. Then if you add on top of that 18 years of childhood trauma issues, and sexual/relationship related trauma, it’s like – a very long document. 10,000 pages? What is that – like 5 books?
    I can imagine this is the case for many people whose trauma spans months or years. How can you explain all of that accurately and truthfully when it covers so much time? How can you make sure that your truth will be heard, when, in order for your truth to be heard, you would need 10,000 pages because with any fewer pages you would be leaving out something that you feel would be crucial to make sure you won’t be misunderstood? So there is this problem — my story requires 10,000 pages for me to tell it right, but I’m trying to tell it in a few paragraphs? Or in one hour? This will not work out at all. There is an inner knowing that – I WILL not be understood because I CANNOT tell this story entirely within the space and time allotted, and this adds another level of terror – the terror of not being understood. The terror related to forcing yourself to enter into a situation in which you know people will not be able to understand you. Then on top if it there are all the other problems, such as the brain trying to stop you from remembering things. With all this, getting the story communicated clearly will be pretty much impossible.

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In Conclusion:

Sue ended by saying: “So if the telling of one’s story can be a sacred, healing, therapeutic act, but there are so many reasons not to tell it – what do we do? Well, from my perspective at this time I see two roads. The first is to slowly become stronger and talk about tiny pieces of what happened in a therapeutic context. (I focus on SE therapy because that’s what I know, but there are probably additional therapeutic modalities that I am not familiar with that have ways of ensuring safety and integration while leading a person back to the traumatic events). The second way is to engage in some kind of creative expression in relation to small parts of the traumas, when ready. Remember always allow a person to take baby steps in their healing process, and be there not matter how long it takes, because it matters, they matter, and love them through the entire experience.”

The Game: Unlocking The Secrets To: The Painful Reality Of Dating!!!!

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Many Relationship are very fraudulent from the inception, because on dates we: dress unlike the way we normally dress, we act in the beginning most of the time unlike we normally act, we wear makeup, colognes, perfumes, we spend money unlike the way we normally do.  To impress and be liked, but in our online profiles, or introductory conversations on the phone, we say “I am honest open and I don’t play any “Games!!!” Dating requires many things one is giving a person a “softer-side” of you, its not negative or bad, its just like I said earlier it to impress. However but playing Games is very different, it’s about hurting other people. Let me explain:

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Games or mind games, and we’ve all experienced people who like to ‘test’ us and put us through the psychological ringer. These people might be our colleagues, our friends, our family, or most commonly, our partners – but in any case it can be just as frustrating and potentially damaging. So how do you deal with it and how can you get the upper hand? Here we will look at why people play mind games, what this often entails, I will explain some games people play, and in our conclusion I will tell you how to deal with Games.

Why People Play Mind Games

There are various reasons that people will play mind games, and the reason that you’re experiencing it will be to do with the individual who’s subjecting you to them, the context that’s surrounding the mind games, and your own personality. The reason a colleague plays mind games at work for instance might be very different to the reason your partner plays mind games and tests you.

The Original Couples Games  (By Stephanie Shepard

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Women hate to be ignored by men because it makes them feel helpless. One day he is giving you all the attention you crave then suddenly you can’t get so much as an “I’m busy right now” text. Cutting off a woman’s attention supply typically makes a woman desperate to get that attention back. Most women come emotionally unhinged by being ignored. Men know this and will use it against you to get what they want. If you find a man is ignoring you, it is time you realized you have overstayed your welcome. Time to walk because any future attention you get will be inferior to the previous attention. The moment a man’s silent treatment game works is the day he knows he has you wrapped around his finger.

The Put On Layaway Game

The layaway game is a very complex game to play. It takes a certain amount of commitment but not so much commitment to indicate permanence. This is the game men play when they take you off the singles market…but don’t commit to you. You are on reserve. You know you are in this game when you are living together, may or may not be engaged, but you are not legally committed. At anytime he can pull the plug on the relationship and slip out of the lease. You know you are in this game when there are no set plans. You are engaged but a wedding date is still up in the air. You have a kid together but you “don’t need a piece of paper to make it official.” You are living together but can’t bring up the idea of marriage or you will get into a huge fight, again. The reason most women get stuck playing this game is fear. Fear of having to walk away from years invested in a relationship that is good but not good enough.

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“Jealousy: the Auschwitz of emotions. The relationship death camp.”
-Christopher Titus

The Jealousy Game is the riskiest game any couple can play. If you win you will be miserable. If you lose you will be miserable. The Hail Mary pass of this game man play is involving other women. It can be the wandering eye in public. The female friend you have never met that he talks to about your relationship. It can even be vocal comparisons between you and other women. This is all meant to make you feel inferior and to know he can do better. The jealousy game will always be a pitiful tit-for-tat game that will kill your relationship. If you are intentionally being made to feel jealous the relationship is already over.

What to do

The best way for any woman to not get stuck playing unhealthy mind games with men is to have a purpose for your love life. That purpose should be your guide in knowing when to walk away and to know when you have a good man. Having a purpose to your love life is simple – know what you want. When you know you want a relationship you won’t get caught up in sloppy booty calls. When you know you want to get married you won’t get stuck in a dead end relationship. When you know what you want the blinders fall off and you stop chasing a fantasy.

 Other Types Of Negative Hurtful Games 

1. The “Ghost Texting” Game(hercampus.com/Love)

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What he does

You had a fantastic time on your date—and he did, too. At least, that’s what you thought until he suddenly dropped off the face of the planet. You haven’t heard back from him in a week. What’s going on?

What you should do

“You may never know for sure what’s up with him,” says Marla Martenson, a matchmaker, author and motivational speaker. “It could be that he is seeing multiple girls, or he is just not that into you. But whatever it is, that’s not your problem. Get out there and date like a guy.”

If he still hasn’t responded to your texts after a week, stop dwelling on that dude and move on. A guy who leaves you on the line just isn’t worth it. After all, you want a man who won’t disappear sporadically (and that’s really not too much to ask).

2. The “Roller Coaster” Game

What he does

On your dinner date, you were both laughing at each other’s jokes. And that sweet nighttime stroll you went on afterward? It was soromantic; he held your hand and gave you a kiss. But the next day, he seemed kind of weird and distant. What’s with the mood swings?

What you should do

“It sounds like he’s probably unsure of his feelings, or the feelings he experienced the night before may be something so new to him that it may be making him feel a little scared,” says Suzanne Oshima, a matchmaker and dating coach at Single in Stilettos.

Whether he’s feeling shaky about his emotions or your awesomeness intimidates him, one thing is certain—you won’t know for sure until you talk to him (and not over text!). In person, gently ask him what’s up with his behavior: “Hey, Mark, you’ve been acting a little distant lately. Is there something going on?” He may open up and have an amazing heart-to-heart with you. But if he still gives you the cold shoulder, it’s best to see what else is out there.

3. The “We’ll Never Be Official” Game

What he does

You’ve been seeing this dude for three months, and every time you bring up the completely un-crazy notion of a relationship, he totally shuts down.

What you should do

“If every time you bring up the ‘girlfriend’ concept he shuts down, the worst thing you can do is to put more pressure on him,” Oshima says. “It’s important to find out the reason why he’s averse to the idea of a girlfriend.”

It’s likely that this guy is flat-out terrified of commitment or has been hurt in the past. Threatening him with an ultimatum isn’t a good idea; give him time to see how wonderful you are! However, Oshima also recommends keeping your options open—give him competition. That guy may never open up to the idea of a relationship, and you don’t want to end up heartbroken.

4. The “Secret Girlfriend” Game

What he does

He’s the sweetest guy ever when it’s just the two of you. But that’s the problem—it’s always just you two! You’re getting the sense that he’s hiding you from his friends. Why would he do that?

What you should do

“If you’ve been dating for a while, then that’s a big, red flag when a guy never wants you to meet his friends or family,” Oshima says. “If you’re an important part of [this] man’s life, he will want you to meet his friends, so he can show you off to them.”

Next time he mentions his posse, ask to meet them! Or tell him you want tag along to a party he’s going to. If he says okay, great! But if he finds a way to get around your requests, let him go. You’re fabulous, and your guy should want to show you off, not keep you a secret.

5. The “Spontaneous Jerk” Game

What he does

You think the world of him. He’s gentle and kind, and he treats you like the princess you are. But when you’re hanging out with him in a group setting, he suddenly enters douche mode and you’re left feeling confused and disgusted. Does his evil twin take over every time you guys hang out with friends? Which is the real him?

What you should do

“This guy is very insecure and feels the need to show off in front of his friends,” Oshima says. “He may be the type of person who feels like the bigger man by putting other people down in front of others.”

If your man feels the need to make awful jokes and mean comments in order to fit in with his friends, this is never okay! Talk to him about his behavior: “Tyler, I think you’re awesome. But when we hang out with other people, you don’t seem to be yourself. I wish everyone could see the sweet guy that I see.”

Give him time to fix his behavior after you’ve talked. If he does it again, Oshima says to “get up and walk out.” If he never comes around, cut ties with this guy. You want somebody who’s secure enough to be nice all the time.

6. The “Never Texts First” Game

What he does

He seems like a perfect fit for you: You both have a ton of fun hanging out together, and he seems totally interested. Except for one minor little detail that you can’t stop stressing about—he never texts you first.

What you should do

“Don’t chase,” says Tyler Young, dating coach and owner of Attractology. “It’s hard sometimes, especially when you like someone and feel a connection.  However, it is vital to allow the man to pursue you.  Men are wired to hunt.”

Young recommends not being available 24/7, so stop texting him first! If he starts initiating the convos, awesome—you’ll know he is interested. But if that dude doesn’t make any moves, then hey, there are plenty of other fish in the sea—fish who are entirely willing to say hi first.

7. The “Super Flirt” Game

What he does

He’s a great guy, and you two just click. You always have a ball together! Unless (and this is a big “unless”) there are other ladies around. Suddenly, he enters mega-flirt mode.

What you should do

Chatting it up with other women while you’re around him is totally rude, but there’s the possibility that he doesn’t even see it as flirting. Confront him about his behavior. Let him know that it’s not cool to flirt in front of you— and be sure to use the word “flirt” so that he knows how you view it. Get straight to the point: “I don’t like when you flirt with other girls in front of me. It hurts my feelings.” If he’s the good guy you thought he was, he’ll stop his offensive actions ASAP.

In Conclusion:

How to Deal With Mind Games

The best way to deal with mind games is simply to rise above them. You should avoid trying to ‘beat them at their own game’, as doing so can actually end up with both of you getting hurt. Normally the mind games being employed are used for the simple reason that the person doing it is too afraid to confront you directly, or they know you would win the confrontation. They are using indirect and manipulative techniques, because they feel insecure, or because you are in the stronger position. Thus if you call them directly on what you suspect, and if you address the issue publicly, they will more often than not reverse course and back down and you will win.

So for instance if someone were to try and subtly undermine you in a workplace, you could try to do the same back and would end up with both of your reputations tarnished (and the fact that you were stopping to underhand methods would be a mark against you too). However if you simply told them you didn’t like what they were implying and that they should address you directly through the proper channels if they have a complaint, then you’ll find they often apologise and back down and that you end up with the better reputation.

Likewise in relationships this can work well too – simply ask directly what it is that is bothering your partner, and if there is anything you can do to help. This demonstrates sensitivity, but also means you aren’t engaging in mind games that will likely end up getting you both hurt. If they aren’t in a talking mood then the best thing to do is simply remove yourself from the situation – tell them that you have no interest in mind games and that you will talk to them when they want to speak openly and maturely. Lastly if none of that works,“There’s really only one way to deal with mind games from a guy: don’t play into them,” says online dating expert Gina Stewart. “You need to be brave.  Call him out on BS behavior. Don’t just ignore it, even if you are strong enough to walk away!!!”free

The Trouble We Have Remembering Memories, And It Gets Worst With Trama!!!

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Memory is one of our only keys factors that we use to detect and remember our past, as humans we believe that we know our memories are true and we actually know exactly what happened in our past, but what if I tell you that you can’t truly remembering and can’t trust memory either, because sometimes memory is exactly what you think is true. With this blog we are going to investigate, What is memory, Is all memory True memory,  The Cognitive Psychology Perspective, Biases In Memory, and Lastly  Why We Can Accurately Remember Tragic Events, To prove no matter what the situation is, we cannot trust our memories.

Memory is defined by Wikipedia as: Memory is the faculty of the mind by which information is encoded, stored, and retrieved.

Memory is vital to experiences and related to limbic systems, it is the retention of information over time for the purpose of influencing future action.[1] If we could not remember past events, we could not learn or develop language, relationships, nor personal identity (Eysenck, 2012).

Often memory is understood as an informational processing system with explicit and implicit functioning that is made up of a sensory processor, short-term (or working) memory, and long-term memory (Baddely, 2007).[better source needed] The sensory processor allows information from the outside world to be sensed in the form of chemical and physical stimuli and attended to with various levels of focus and intent. Working memory serves as an encoding and retrieval processor. Information in the form of stimuli is encoded in accordance with explicit or implicit functions by the working memory processor. The working memory also retrieves information from previously stored material. Finally, the function of long-term memory is to store data through various categorical models or systems (Baddely, 2007).[better source needed]

Explicit and implicit functions of memory are also known as declarative and non-declarative systems (Squire, 2009).[better source needed]These systems involve the purposeful intention of memory retrieval and storage, or lack thereof. Declarative, or explicit, memoryis the conscious storage and recollection of data (Graf & Schacter, 1985). Under declarative memory resides semantic and episodic memory. Semantic memory refers to memory that is encoded with specific meaning (Eysenck, 2012), while episodic memory refers to information that is encoded along a spatial and temporal plane (Schacter & Addis, 2007; Szpunar, 2010). Declarative memory is usually the primary process thought of when referencing memory (Eysenck, 2012)…Memory is not a perfect processor, and is affected by many factors. The manner information is encoded, stored, and retrieved can all be corrupted. The amount of attention given new stimuli can diminish the amount of information that becomes encoded for storage (Eysenck, 2012). Also, the storage process can become corrupted by physical damage to areas of the brain that are associated with memory storage, such as the hippocampus (Squire, 2009). Finally, the retrieval of information from long-term memory can be disrupted because of decay within long-term memory (Eysenck, 2012). Normal functioning, decay over time, and brain damage all affect the accuracy and capacity of memory. (Wikipedia)                                                                                          Image result for remember memories

Is All Memory True Memory.  

Our memories aren’t as reliable as we’d like to think they are, even for those with exceptional abilities to remember specific dates and times photographically. False memories (apparent recollections of events that actually did not occur) can affect anyone in magnitudes that range from falsely recalling an unimportant event at a party back in high school to wrongly remembering a case of murder or sexual assault.

How do these memories form and why do we so adamantly believe they are real? Psychology and neuroscience have answers, but other inconsistencies embedded in the phenomenon remain a mystery. According to a study at Northwestern University, when we remember something, we actually remember the last time we recalled the memory as opposed to remembering the actual event. Each time we remember something, the memory can be affected and altered by our thoughts, perceptions, and emotions. Slight changes in the memory of an event each time it is recalled can eventually snowball into a completely false memory, one that we will firmly believe to be true as it evolved in our own minds. Memories are stored with the formation of particular proteins in the brain and these proteins can be reformed or modified each time the memory is recalled.

The formation of false memories relies heavily on visual images. Further research done at Northwestern University showed that many images subjects were asked to imagine in their heads were later mistaken as actually having been seen. A vividly imagined event can leave a memory trace similar to an event that was actually experienced. The study determined that the areas in the brain that showed the greatest response during the “remembering” of the false memories were the areas in the prefrontal cortices. The memory trace itself is chemical.

Neuroscientists say that many daily memories are reconstructed to false ones because our view of the world is constantly changing. If there are gaps in our recollection of an event, our memory ultimately fills them in with current knowledge as well as beliefs or expectations. For example, a student with expectations that he will fail the math section on the SAT may “remember” a math test he failed as a child when it was really a different subject. Strong emotions associated with a past event also play a role in false memories.

Smoking marijuana can induce false memories. A recent study published in March 2015 revealed that frequent cannabis useputs people at a higher risk for forming false memories than non-users. Long-term use of the drug disrupts the memory and reality monitoring mechanisms that allow us to distinguish between actual and imaginative events.

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Elizabeth Loftus, a cognitive psychologist and expert on the human memory and its malleability, has done extensive research on the false memory phenomenon. In one of her studies, she convinced a fifth of the participants that they had a memory of being lost in a mall as a child simply through a series of suggestions and implications. While this may seem like a more common childhood experience that could easily be mistaken, other studies have convinced subjects that, as children, they almost drown, were attacked by a vicious animal, or that they witnessed a demonic possession.

In her TED talk, Loftus discusses a legal case she worked on in which a rape victim initially identifies a man’s picture as being the closest to the looks of her rapist, and later proceeds to accuse him as the actual rapist in court, claiming she is 100 percent sure it’s him. He was convicted of the crime and did jail time before an investigative journalist looked into the case and eventually identified the real rapist. This raises the issue of relying on witness accounts as concrete evidence for conviction in the court of law.

When it comes down to it, memories are simply a series of sensory and emotional recollections of a past event that are blurred by imagination, ambiguities, current beliefs and knowledge, and time. Numerous studies have proven that even those with the sharpest, exceptional memories aren’t immune to memory distortion. It’s reasonable to assume that we’ve all unknowingly experienced the strange phenomenon of false memories throughout our lives.(thescienceexplore.com)


cognitive psychology, is divided into the following 2 types:

  • Short-term memory that stores sounds, images and words, allows for short computations and filters information that either goes to long-term memory or is discarded.
  • Long-term memory that allows us to store information based on meaning and importance for extended periods of time, affects our perception and constitutes a framework where new info is attached.

Main Characteristics of the Short-term Memory

Short-term memory has 3 main characteristics:

  1. Brief duration that can only last up to 20 seconds.
  2. Its capacity is limited to 7 ±2 chunks of independent information (Miller’s Law) and is vulnerable to interference and interruption.
  3. Its weakening (due to many reasons, such as medication, sleep deprivation, a stroke, or a head injury, for example) is the first step to memory loss.

Short-term memory is responsible for 3 operations:

  1. Iconic, which is the ability to store images.
  2. Acoustic, which is the ability to store sounds.
  3. Working Memory, which is the ability to store information until it’s put to use. For some scientists, working memory is synonymous to short-term memory, but truth is that working memory is not only used for information storage, but also for the manipulation of information. What’s important is that it’s flexible, dynamic and makes all the difference in successful learning.

Main Characteristics of the Long-term Memory

Information in Long-term memory is stored as a network of schemas, which then converts into knowledge structures. This is exactly why we recall relevant knowledge when we stumble upon similar information. The challenge for an instructional designer is to activate those existing structures before presenting new information and that can be achieved in a variety of ways, like with graphics, movies, curiosity-provoking questions, etc.

2 Types of Long-term memory

  1. Explicit: Conscious memories that include our perception of the world, as well as our own personal experiences.
  2. Implicit: Unconscious memories that we use without realizing it.

Long-term memory is responsible for 3 operations

  1. Encoding, which is the ability to convert information into a knowledge structure.
  2. Storage, which is the ability to accumulate chunks of information.
  3. Retrieval, which is the ability to recall things we already know.  

7 Memory Mythbusters

  1. There are no everlasting memories. Every long-term memory has a certain life expectancy.
  2. Memory is not infinite. According to recent research, most people cannot store more than 300.000 facts during their lives.
  3. Encoding will not reinforce our memory. According to recent research, if we store information exactly as we originally obtained it, it will stick longer.
  4. Don’t study before you sleep. It’s true that sleep is beneficial to learning, however, the neurohormonal state of the brain is at its best in early morning and that applies to all people.
  5. Memory decays with age. A well-trained memory can be resilient, regardless of age, simply because training increases the scope of knowledge.
  6. The people that learn faster are those that hardly forget. It all has to do with the way we manipulate information and the way we connect it with imagery and that depends on how smart we are.
  7. 7. There is no easy way to memorize. Remembering is a skill and requires quite a lot of mental effort. There are techniques, but they are not effortless.(elearningindustry.com).   Image result for Memory Biases
  8.   Memory Biases

Change bias: after an investment of effort in producing change, remembering one’s past performance as more difficult than it actually was.[1

  •  Amnesia Childhood
    : the retention of few memories from before the age of four
  • Choice-supportive bias: remembering chosen options as having been better than rejected options (Mather, Shafir & Johnson, 2000)
  • Confirmation bias: the tendency to search for, interpret, or recall information in a way that confirms one’s beliefs or hypotheses.
  • Conservatism or Regressive bias: tendency to remember high values and high likelihoods/probabilities/frequencies lower than they actually were and low ones higher than they actually were. Based on the evidence, memories are not extreme enough.[2][3]
  • Consistency bias: incorrectly remembering one’s past attitudes and behaviour as resembling present attitudes and behaviour.
  • Context effect: that cognition and memory are dependent on context, such that out-of-context memories are more difficult to retrieve than in-context memories (e.g., recall time and accuracy for a work-related memory will be lower at home, and vice versa).
  • Cryptomnesia: a form of misattributionwhere a memory is mistaken for imagination, because there is no subjective experience of it being a memory.[1]
  • Egocentric bias: recalling the past in a self-serving manner, e.g., remembering one’s exam grades as being better than they were, or remembering a caught fish as bigger than it really was.
  • Fading affect bias: a bias in which the emotion associated with unpleasant memories fades more quickly than the emotion associated with positive events.[4]
  • Generation effect (Self-generation effect): that self-generated information is remembered best. For instance, people are better able to recall memories of statements that they have generated than similar statements generated by others.
  • Gender differences in eyewitness memory: the tendency for a witness to remember more details about someone of the same gender.
  • Hindsight bias: the inclination to see past events as being predictable; also called the “I-knew-it-all-along” effect.
  • Humor effect: that humorous items are more easily remembered than non-humorous ones, which might be explained by the distinctiveness of humor, the increased cognitive processing time to understand the humor, or the emotional arousal caused by the humor.
  • Illusion-of-truth effect: that people are more likely to identify as true statements those they have previously heard (even if they cannot consciously remember having heard them), regardless of the actual validity of the statement. In other words, a person is more likely to believe a familiar statement than an unfamiliar one…And Many many more.


Why We Can’t Accurate Remember Traumatic Events:               Image result for Why We Can't Accurate Remember Traumatic Events: 

Let me get the scientific part out of the way first. To understand the rest of this article, I need to define three things:

  1. Traumatic Event: Any happening which effects major change in our emotional, physical and memory functions
  2. Glucocorticoids: Substances produced during trauma that help our brain cope with the overwhelming nature of the event
  3. Hippocampus: The central core of our memory system that allows us to take events and store them in long-term memory.

Armed with those definitions, let me walk you through recent discoveries with memory research. In about a dozen studies (but most recently in this one by Benno Roozendaal et al), it has been shown that when we have a traumatic event in our lives, the body produces major amounts of glucocorticoids. This helps to calm us down so we can cope. It also gives us that “numb” feeling that many people describe during stress. But glucocorticoids have a transverse effect. They destroy neurons in the HippocampusThis means that the more stress we are under, the less we will be able to store the traumatic event in long-term memory. This partially explains how some people who endured years of trauma through abuse have very little memory of the entire season of events.

However, there is one other effect of Glucocorticoids. They enhance the limbic system in the brain. The limbic system helps us store our emotional reactions in events. Our brains can actually store our emotional output during a traumatic event much more completely than we can store the facts of the event.

The implication of these two findings is huge for TPM (Theophostic Management) counseling. TPM counseling accesses emotional reactions in the present time and follows them back to their original memory. Since emotions are actually heightened during trauma, they are a more accurate way to access traumatic memories than any other method.

I consider this a true endorsement for TPM and EMDR approaches to emotional and spiritual well-being. Each of these counseling methods relies on triggered emotions to go back to false beliefs and decisions that are still affecting our lives from those trauma.(natomaschurch@.wordpress.com).       

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In life memory is one of the only thing that we perceive to be true, when people have a dispute or want to explain an event that happens in the past. It is a way to investigate any and all crimes and problems, from the dispute on the playground to a murder in a community. Moreover it is The way of proving infidelity and lying among people in relationships, however it is not accurate in many ways and for many reasons. When we think of a memory we actually think we know what happen accurately because we will use phrases like: “I know exactly, because it was at this particular time,”  or we will explain the location or something or some one in the room, to prove that our memory is accurate. But even with all this tactics, your memory is no more true than any other because of many things such as: Biases, Perspective, false memories and many other factors. So when you are using you memory to see if you want to punish your child, loss a relationship, or start an argument, How about starting off the conversation with a discussion about he situation and then, work out the problem with open and honest dialogue.    

The Deaf, Are They The Non Hearing Or Are We Just Not Hearing Them!!!  

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As the hearing public we have no idea what the non hearing public, wants, desire, or need. Moreover we the hearing public are slated with the job or position to determine and mandate the desires of the non hearing. From the beginning of hearing loss we have made mistakes, harmful, sometimes deadly and somewhat torturous things in the name of helping, curing, or healing, this idea of a  “disability.” However I ask the question: has anyone ever asked the non hearing if they actually want to be a part of the hearing society? Today I will take a look at the Non hearing: Key facts, Hearing Loss and Deafness, Causes of Hearing loss, Impact Of Hearing Loss, Social, Emotional, and Economic Impact Of Hearing Loss, Treatments: assestive devices, wireless hearing aids, Surgeries. lastly Argument For Allowing Them To Live How They Would Like!!!

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Key facts

  • 360 million people worldwide have disabling hearing loss (1), and 32 million of these are children.
  • Hearing loss may result from genetic causes, complications at birth, certain infectious diseases, chronic ear infections, the use of particular drugs, exposure to excessive noise, and ageing.
  • 60% of childhood hearing loss is due to preventable causes.
  • 1.1 billion young people (aged between 12–35 years) are at risk of hearing loss due to exposure to noise in recreational settings.
  • Unaddressed hearing loss poses an annual global cost of 750 billion international dollars (2). Interventions to prevent, identify and address hearing loss are cost-effective and can bring great benefit to individuals.
  • People with hearing loss benefit from early identification; use of hearing aids, cochlear implants and other assistive devices; captioning and sign language; and other forms of educational and social support. (Who.int)

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Hearing loss and deafness

A person who is not able to hear as well as someone with normal hearing – hearing thresholds of 25 dB or better in both ears – is said to have hearing loss. Hearing loss may be mild, moderate, severe, or profound. It can affect one ear or both ears, and leads to difficulty in hearing conversational speech or loud sounds.

‘Hard of hearing’ refers to people with hearing loss ranging from mild to severe. People who are hard of hearing usually communicate through spoken language and can benefit from hearing aids, cochlear implants, and other assistive devices as well as captioning. People with more significant hearing losses may benefit from cochlear implants.

‘Deaf’ people mostly have profound hearing loss, which implies very little or no hearing. They often use sign language for communication.

Causes of hearing loss and deafness

The causes of hearing loss and deafness can be divided into congenital causes and acquired causes.

Congenital causes

Congenital causes may lead to hearing loss being present at or acquired soon after birth. Hearing loss can be caused by hereditary and non-hereditary genetic factors or by certain complications during pregnancy and childbirth, including:

  • maternal rubella, syphilis or certain other infections during pregnancy;
  • low birth weight;
  • birth asphyxia (a lack of oxygen at the time of birth);
  • inappropriate use of particular drugs during pregnancy, such as aminoglycosides, cytotoxic drugs, antimalarial drugs, and diuretics;
  • severe jaundice in the neonatal period, which can damage the hearing nerve in a newborn infant.

Acquired causes

Acquired causes may lead to hearing loss at any age, such as:

  • infectious diseases including meningitis, measles and mumps;
  • chronic ear infections;
  • collection of fluid in the ear (otitis media);
  • use of certain medicines, such as those used in the treatment of neonatal infections, malaria, drug-resistant tuberculosis, and cancers;
  • injury to the head or ear;
  • excessive noise, including occupational noise such as that from machinery and explosions;
  • recreational exposure to loud sounds such as that from use of personal audio devices at high volumes and for prolonged periods of time and regular attendance at concerts, nightclubs, bars and sporting events;
  • ageing, in particular due to degeneration of sensory cells; and
  • wax or foreign bodies blocking the ear canal.

Among children, chronic otitis media is a common cause of hearing loss.

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Functional impact

One of the main impacts of hearing loss is on the individual’s ability to communicate with others. Spoken language development is often delayed in children with unaddressed hearing loss.

Unaddressed hearing loss and ear diseases such as otitis media can have a significantly adverse effect on the academic performance of children. They often have increased rates of grade failure and greater need for education assistance. Access to suitable accommodations is important for optimal learning experiences but are not always available.

Social and emotional impact

Exclusion from communication can have a significant impact on everyday life, causing feelings of loneliness, isolation, and frustration, particularly among older people with hearing loss.

Economic impact

WHO estimates that unaddressed hearing loss poses an annual global cost of 750 billion international dollars. This includes health sector costs (excluding the cost of hearing devices), costs of educational support, loss of productivity, and societal costs.

In developing countries, children with hearing loss and deafness rarely receive any schooling. Adults with hearing loss also have a much higher unemployment rate. Among those who are employed, a higher percentage of people with hearing loss are in the lower grades of employment compared with the general workforce.

Improving access to education and vocational rehabilitation services, and raising awareness especially among employers about the needs of people with hearing loss, will decrease unemployment rates for people with hearing loss. (Who.int)

Treatment                                                                                               Image result for hearing loss and deafness treatment

Depends on the specific cause if known as well as the extent, type and configuration of the hearing loss. Most hearing loss, that resulting from age and noise, is progressive and irreversible, and there are currently no approved or recommended treatments; management is by hearing aid. A few specific kinds of hearing loss are amenable to surgical treatment. In other cases, treatment is addressed to underlying pathologies, but any hearing loss incurred may be permanent.

There are a number of devices that can improve hearing in those who are deaf or hard of hearing or allow people with these conditions to manage better in their lives.

Hearing aidsEdit

Hearing aids are devices that work to improve the hearing and speech comprehension of those with hearing loss.[82] It works by magnifying the sound vibrations in the ear so that one can understand what is being said around them.[82] The use of this technological device may or may not have an effect on one’s sociability. Some people feel as if they cannot live without one because they say it is the only thing that keeps them engaged with the public. Conversely, there are many people who choose not to wear their hearing aids for a multitude of reasons. The vast majority of these reasons stem from either poor performance of the aid, in which the user notices more amplification of background noises instead of the sounds they intended, or from issues with comfort, care, or maintenance of the device; financial factors have also been reported.[83] A comparatively small fraction of people choose not to wear hearing aids due to aesthetic concerns and/or stigma around wearing the device.[83]

Assistive DevicesEditMany deaf and hard of hearing individuals use assistive devices in their daily lives:

  • Individuals can communicate by telephone using telephone typewriters (TTY). Other common names are textphone, minicom and telecommunications device for the deaf (TDD). These devices look like typewriters or word processors and transmit typed text over regular telephone lines. This allows communication through visual messaging. TTYs can transmit messages to individuals who don’t have TTY by using the National Relay service which is an operator that acts as a messenger to each caller.[84] For mobile phones, software apps are available to provide TDD/textphone functionality on some carriers/models to provide 2-way communications.
  • There are several new telecommunications relay service technologies including IP Relay and captioned telephonetechnologies. A deaf or hard of hearing person can communicate over the phone with a hearing person via a human translator. Phone captioning is a service in which a hearing person’s speech is captioned by a third party, enabling a deaf or hard of hearing person to conduct a conversation with a hearing person over the phone.[85] WirelessInternet and mobile phone/SMS text messaging are beginning to take over the role of the TDD.
  • Real-time text technologies, involving streaming text that is continuously transmitted as it is typed or otherwise composed. This allows conversational use of text. Software programs are now available that automatically generate a closed-captioning of conversations. Examples include discussions in conference rooms, teleconference calls, classroom lectures, and/or religious services.
  • Instant messaging software.
  • Videophones and similar video technologies can be used for distance communication using sign language. Video conferencing technologies permit signed conversations as well as permitting a sign language–English interpreter to voice and sign conversations between a deaf or hard of hearing person and that person’s hearing party, negating the use of a TTY device or computer keyboard.
  • Video relay service and video remote interpreting (VRI) services also use a third-party telecommunication service to allow a deaf or hard-of-hearing person to communicate quickly and conveniently with a hearing person, through a sign language interpreter.
  • Hearing dogs are a specific type of assistance dog specifically selected and trained to assist the deaf and hard of hearing by alerting their handler to important sounds, such as doorbellssmoke alarms, ringing telephones, or alarm clocks.
  • The advent of the Internet’s World Wide Web and closed captioning has given the deaf and hard of hearing unprecedented access to information. Electronic mail and online chat have reduced the need for deaf and hard-of-hearing people to use a third-party Telecommunications Relay Service to communicate with the hearing and other deaf people.
  • A person with hearing loss cannot always hear the phone or distinguish their own ringtone from another. A signalling transmitter can be attached to a phone that will cause a light or a vibration device to activate. Transmitters can also be used to activate visuals cues to represent fire alarms.[84]
  • Individuals with hearing loss require phones with amplifiers that have a higher power of amplification when compared to a regular phone. The Hearing Aid Telephone Interconnect System is a hands free amplification system which allows people to amplify sound when using telephones, cell phones, computer and pay phones by way of the attachment of a portable unit.[84]

Wireless hearing aidsEdit

A wireless device has two main components: a transmitter and a receiver. The transmitter broadcasts the captured sound, and the receiver detects the broadcast audio and enables the incoming audio stream to be connected to accommodations such as hearing aids or captioning systems.

Three types of wireless systems are commonly used: FMaudio induction loop, and InfraRed. Each system has advantages and benefits for particular uses. FM systems can be battery operated or plugged into an electrical outlet. FM system produce an analog audio signal, meaning they have extremely high fidelity. Many FM systems are very small in size, allowing them to be used in mobile situations. The audio induction loop permits the listener with hearing loss to be free of wearing a receiver provided that the listener has a hearing aid or cochlear implant processor with an accessory called a “telecoil“. If the listener does not have a telecoil, then he or she must carry a receiver with an earpiece. As with FM systems, the infrared (IR) system also requires a receiver to be worn or carried by the listener. An advantage of IR wireless systems is that people in adjoining rooms cannot listen in on conversations, making it useful for situations where privacy and confidentiality are required. Another way to achieve confidentiality is to use a hardwired amplifier, which contains or is connected to a microphone and transmits no signal beyond the earpiece plugged directly into it.[86]


Illustration of a cochlear implant

There is no treatment surgical or otherwise for hearing lost due to the most common causes (age, noise and genetic defects). For a few specific conditions, surgical intervention can provide a remedy:

  • surgical correction of superior canal dehiscence
  • myringotomy, surgical insertion of drainage ventilation tubes in the tympanic membrane. Such placement is usually temporary until the underlying pathology (infection or other inflammation) can be resolved.
  • radiotherapy or surgical excision of vestibular schwannoma or acoustic neuroma, though, in most cases, it is unlikely that hearing will be preserved
  • Stapedectomy and stapedotomy for otosclerosis – replacement or reshaping of the stapes bone of the middle ear can restore hearing in cases of conductive hearing loss

Surgical and implantable hearing aids are an alternative to conventional external hearing aids. If the ear is dry and not infected, an air conduction aid could be tried; if the ear is draining, a direct bone condition hearing aid is often the best solution. If the conductive part of the hearing loss is more than 30–35 dB, an air conduction device could have problems overcoming this gap. A bone-anchored hearing aid could, in this situation, be a good option. The active bone conduction hearing implant Bonebridge is also an option. This implant is invisible under the intact skin and therefore minimises the risk of skin irritations.[65]

Cochlear implants improve outcomes in people with hearing loss in either one or both ears.[87] They work by artificial stimulation of the cochlear nerve by providing an electric impulse substitution for the firing of hair cells. They are expensive, and require programming along with extensive training for effectiveness.

Cochlear implants as well as bone conduction implants can help with single sided deafness. Middle ear implants or bone conduction implants can help with conductive hearing loss.[65]

People with cochlear implants are at a higher risk for bacterial meningitis. Thus, meningitis vaccination is recommended.[88] People who have hearing loss, especially those who develop a hearing problem in childhood or old age, may need support and technical adaptations as part of the rehabilitation process. Recent research shows variations in efficacy but some studies[89] show that if implanted at a very young age, some profoundly impaired children can acquire effective hearing and speech, particularly if supported by appropriate rehabilitation. (Wikipedia.com)

An Argument For Allowing Them Live The Way They Would Like  Image result for a argument

The non hearing world wide are three hundred and ninety million strong and growing, that is bigger than the United States. They are a large community but don’t have a land mass to distinguished them from other people and other countries, they are spread out all across the planet.  Because they are spread out and don’t have a community and live amount the hearing, thy are seen as less intelligent and needy. However they are a intelligent and strong, and equal or better group of people with all the genius of any group their size. The reason why we really don’t know what they are about is because we are spending most of  our time, finding them a cure for a non sickness or a non  disease.  Daily trying to diagnose them so very early, that they cannot make a open and honest decision about weather to continue to be non-hearing or use a hearing mechanism. Moreover allowing hearing parent mostly with no history of the non hearing community, to decide, which over the  top healing strategy they will use with the idea that they are helping their child. These things can be Prayer or faith-healing, Two obvious hearing aids in each ear, or the overtly seen cutting open the skull implants. These might be OK for adults with hearing lose because they understand the issues and ramification that comes with the usage of these products and the looks, but not for a child born non-hearing.  Who will have live with long-term gawking and staring: ” I Don’t Know, What is the better option: staring because you are signing or staring because I have something cut into my skull? Wow.

I will add a new argument: how about the non hearing community around the world coming out of the shadows, making decisions for themselves and their particular community. The decisions can be about their own particular issues: and I promise it won’t be about hearing, because the only people with that issue, is the hearing and the hearing loss community!!!