“Harry and Margaret have a wonderful relationship”, said Mrs. Johnson, Harry’s mother, she went on to say “my Harry is talkative but, that’s what you need in a good marriage, a strong, man” and “Margaret is the perfect wife, “quiet and submissive” and is truly a great mother, she just have to look at her kids: Mark and Janice and they get back in line” bragged Mrs. Johnson!!!
Mrs Johnson, would talk about and bragg on her son and daughter-in-law, daily, monthly and some times hourly. She just was so proud that her son, was married, had a beautiful family and a great job that he loved.
Harry was a Lawyer and not just any Lawyer he was Assistant District Attorney, he graduated third in his class from Princeton, that’s where he met his wife, she was first in their graduation class and she is his boss, The District Attorney, they get along so great, and one day they plan to open up their own “Law Firm!!!”
Mr, & Mrs. Johnson alway work as a team, that’s the reason they work well together, in law school, they meet and most if their dates were in the law library, with books and splitting a sandwich, chip, and a soda.
He always admired how quiet, she was, and how she could remember so many, great law cases, can guote parts of them verbatim, and how she could write a brief in nothing flat. She always admired about him, his “no fear”, “go for the throat” tenacity, and “his think on his feet” depositions and summations.
Being a extrovert, he was talkative, but it was no problem to her because she truly listen. He respected her quite dispostion and how strong of a litigator she is in court. Her being a Introvert she was quite when needed, but see how even in his quite time he creates some of the best argument, but other people stuck in the
Extrovert and Introvert stereotypes, believe it works because opposites attract. However, they work because truly loved and respected one another and that make the marriage!!!
What is a Introvert and Extrovert:
The introvert gets their energy from within, while the extrovert is charged up by people, places and stimuli outside of them,” according to Jennifer B.
Kahnweiler, Ph.D, a certified speaking professional, executive coach and author.
Introverts embrace solitude and require alone time, she said. They enjoy deep one-on-one conversations. “They let their fingers do the talking, opt for email over telephone and like to express ideas in writing, because it gives them a chance to self-reflect.”
Extroverts like to mingle and move around in social situations. “They talk first, think later, because they express themselves more easily verbally.” They tend to be more energized and have a faster pace and cadence in their voice, she said.
As I said earlier, people like Harry’s Mom come in with their own Extrovert and Introvert stereotypes, as she stated: “Harry is talkative” and “Margaret is the perfect wife, “quiet and submissive” this may be from her point of view but, not who they are. Which is truly a misconception, here are a few more:
Misconceptions of Introverts and Extroverts
By. Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S
1. Myth: Introverts are shy.
Fact: There are certainly shy introverts. But introversion and shyness are not synonymous. Introverts just “seem shy because they tend to think before they speak,” said Helgoe, also an assistant professor of psychology at Davis & Elkins College in West Virginia. They process things internally, whereas extroverts process things as they’re speaking, she said.
2. Myth: Introverts don’t make good public speakers.
Fact: “At least half of people who speak for a living are introverted in nature,” Dr. Kahnweiler said. They just prepare and practice really well, and “they draw from their strengths.”
3. Myth: Introverts aren’t happy, or extroverts are happier.
Fact: Lately, people has been seeing this myth or versions of it all over the media. But it isn’t that introverts are unhappy, or extroverts are happier than introverts. They’re simply happy in different ways.
1. Myth: Extroverts are bad listeners.
Fact: “Extroverts can be incredible listeners, because they draw people out by their open-ended questions and paraphrasing,” Dr. Kahnweiler said. For instance, they might say, “So tell me more about that” or “What you said was…” Extroverts are able to develop rapport with others and know how to make people comfortable, she said.
2. Myth: Extroverts don’t like quiet or alone time.
Fact: Extroverts do need this type of time to recharge. But they need it in “shorter doses and in different ways,” Dr. Kahnweiler said. For instance, an extrovert might listen to music with their headphones on while sitting in a coffee shop, she said.
3. Myth: Extroverts are shallow.
Fact: Again, extroverts and introverts simply have a different way of processing information, Dr. Helgoe said. She gave the example of her husband, an extrovert. “He might strike up conversations with different people or be more active in a conversation. But he’s going deeper in a different sort of way. By the end of the night he’ll have a better idea about this group of people or more information on a topic, because he’s explored it deeply through interaction.”
C. Both: Introverts and Extroverts
Myth: You are either an introvert or an extrovert.
Fact: Think of introversion and extroversion as falling on a continuum. “Most people fall somewhere in the middle,” Dr. Kahnweiler said.
Introvert and extroverts do not live, act, and respond on a continuum. Like any other group they will not always act in accordance and to the letter based on their groups actions and beliefs.
So that means, “You can be an extrovert who likes to daydream and reflect deeply on idea. You can be an introvert who loves talking to people. You can be an assertive, loud-talking introvert. You can be a sensitive, socially awkward extrovert. We need to shed the outdated and self-diagnosed notions of binary personality because it’s not useful for understanding who we really are.” (Thorin Klosow)
Like Harry and Margaret learned. That you don’t have to be anyone’s stereotype and as they built their relationship and family. Secondly, they didn’t marry a Introvert nor Extrovert, they married each other. And lastly with love, respect, listening, and true grit, and no matter introvert or extrovert, together, they will be great people!!!